I can’t really speak to how I’d feel about it because I’ve only been with someone who matched me once but that was pretty awesome while it lasted. She had a lot of mental issues that made the relationship unsustainable though.
The rest have seemed to mostly feel like sex was all I was concerned with because I wanted it all the time, even though that wasn’t true, I was willing and helped plan to do other things, it was just sex that I wanted to do most and I tried to explain that I knew I wasn’t entitled to anything and I was fine with them saying no when they weren’t in the mood but it always seemed to be a source of friction where we’d get in a loop where they were shooting me down all the time and getting pissed at me for even trying, so I’d hold back from trying to initiate things so often, still get rejected when I did, so back off more, and so on until it was weeks/months between doing anything, and at that point it does become frustrating because it’s impossible for me to get into a headspace where I can understand not wanting to have sex or why you would want to be romantically involved with someone you’re not physically attracted to. Trying to get answers from them as to if there was anything to be done to improve the situation never went anywhere because they didn’t see it as a problem.
I’m happy for you that you found someone that matches you well.
sharkweek@sopuli.xyz 3 days ago
Aww, that sounds so sweet! I’m glad you found at least one partner that you’re well matched with :-)