Comment on most perverted men are actually very vanilla and run away when faced with a perverted woman
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 4 days ago
I’ve been called perverted just for having a high sex drive and thinking about fucking all the time. I don’t think I’m particularly perverted. I just want to do the basic stuff A LOT. All the people I think of as perverted are into the freaky/gross stuff.
Oh so you like sex? The thing we’re naturally evolutionally draen to like? The thing that your natural urges of keeping the species alive like other animals are telling you you want? That thing?
You fucking pervert. You should be ashamed of yourself.
You sound like an ex of mine.
No worries I am nobody’s ex
Is that how you became the wizard pope?
I don’t think the bar is even that high. Any mismatched sex drive is likely to get you called out.
I found out my hyper sexuality is partially caused by untreated ADHD. Maybe talk to someone and look into it.
I do probably have ADHD but I don’t really mind the hypersexuality. At least it’s a want I can somewhat satisfy myself vs. something like wanting to own a house or have a rewarding career that actually pays me enough to live comfortably.
It can wreck a healthy relationship so consider that
Eh, I’ve made it clear to everyone I’ve been with that I don’t expect them to match me or hold it against them when they don’t. If they still can’t handle it at that point it’s kind of on them.
RBWells@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Yeah, in my experience (and at this point I’m pretty experienced) so many men are threatened when my sex drive is higher than theirs, they want to be the one who wants more than I do, no matter what they say. They feel unmanly in some way if I am not the limiting factor, or think it unladylike to want so much.
Only twice have I had a guy who really and truly was so turned on by my wanting it all the time and I married one of them. Now I get it everyday at least and more if I want, even if he doesn’t get off he will do me & edge himself so that he can still do it later, and is way ok with that since he knows I will also want it whenever he’s ready to finish.
sharkweek@sopuli.xyz 3 days ago
Aww, that sounds so sweet! I’m glad you found at least one partner that you’re well matched with :-)
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 days ago
I can’t really speak to how I’d feel about it because I’ve only been with someone who matched me once but that was pretty awesome while it lasted. She had a lot of mental issues that made the relationship unsustainable though.
The rest have seemed to mostly feel like sex was all I was concerned with because I wanted it all the time, even though that wasn’t true, I was willing and helped plan to do other things, it was just sex that I wanted to do most and I tried to explain that I knew I wasn’t entitled to anything and I was fine with them saying no when they weren’t in the mood but it always seemed to be a source of friction where we’d get in a loop where they were shooting me down all the time and getting pissed at me for even trying, so I’d hold back from trying to initiate things so often, still get rejected when I did, so back off more, and so on until it was weeks/months between doing anything, and at that point it does become frustrating because it’s impossible for me to get into a headspace where I can understand not wanting to have sex or why you would want to be romantically involved with someone you’re not physically attracted to. Trying to get answers from them as to if there was anything to be done to improve the situation never went anywhere because they didn’t see it as a problem.
I’m happy for you that you found someone that matches you well.