Comment on most perverted men are actually very vanilla and run away when faced with a perverted woman
Catgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
I think this has nothing to do with someone’s gender. I would consider myself a perverted woman. I am at a lot of kinky events (probably once or twice a week). I saw a lot of stuff that is too extreme for me but on the other hand a lot of things I do is too extreme for others. So it’s a huge thing based on perspective. But what I noticed so far is that men have a lot of kinks that are unrealistic to pull of. I met someone who was into the thought of me shrinking him down and swallow him. I encountered almost every kink imaginable so far and I would say woman and man are equally as perverted.
Not my experience, with the guys willing to hire a pro for general “kinky” stuff many didn’t want more than spanking and stern words … and that’s after they got over the psychological hurdles of actually talking to someone and confirming they had cash.
IME lots of boys like the idea, but have a low tolerance for loss of control, and no confidence that even if worked up gently they would actually enjoy being pushed.
IME lots of boys like the idea, but have a low tolerance for loss of control, and no confidence that even if worked up gently they would actually enjoy being pushed.
Aye to the tolerance, but I think that is a HEAVY trust issue more than anything else. They’re coming to someone they’ve basically never met before, and you think completely giving up control is going to be okay? That’s how folks get murdered (statistically rare, sure, but can you imagine a better scenario for killing someone?) in every bad fiction novel and ‘true crime’ talkyrecording.
having a low tolerance for loss of control IMO is connected to a general anxiety, having made bad life experiences, having been hurt by others etc . this are not inherent character traits but develop in a rough and coldhearted environment.
I think it’s also function of toxic masculinity - to trust your body to someone else goes against everything that’s taught about being macho.
To be blindfolded and tied is a very intense emotional experience, even before anything actually gets done … intense emotions are also considered bad by ‘tough guys’
If a woman told me I can’t go, and that she was simply going to use me, that would actually be the hottest thing ever.
Especially if she is rather strong, and shows that she is eager.
Idk where you find these people.
They found me, via advertising or word of mouth.
I’m long since retired from that line of work, though.
Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I think maybe your results are skewed by your sample group. I’m unsurprised that you find very pervy men at your Sunday night Pervert Socials. What are the average, non-meeting-attending pervs cranking their hogs to? Probably high heels and fishnets and thinking they’re depraved animals.
daggermoon@piefed.world 2 weeks ago
Feet and gentle femdom on a good day, horrible and degrading femdom shit on a bad day. I wouldn’t say i’m depraved, more so damaged and insecure.