Comment on Anon's dad tries to bond

Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• Rooster326@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Like way, way ahead of the curve. How is this a thing to complain about?

  Do they have any idea how most parents are?

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  • Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I don’t think they’re complaining

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• Klanky@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  My dad never made fun of my interests and I do the same with my son. I can’t imagine doing that. My dad still keeps up with my son (his grandson’s interests) and will watch YouTube streamers and play Minecraft or whatever with him. 🙂

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  • SaneMartigan@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I told my dad I was going to play board games with friends and he spelled out B-O-R-E-D and went on a rant about how much he hates board games and that they’re for losers. We haven’t spoken in about five years.

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  • Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Sounds like you come from a line of good dads

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• AbKingPro@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Relatable sadly

  These kind of things really messes you up in the long term. My dad was always making fun of me for liking video games and it took me a long time to get rid of the idea that whatever I was interested into was not boring/weird/unusual by default.

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  • DickFiasco@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Same. I used to get made fun of for my music taste, sometimes just based on the band name or album art. Developed a habit of hiding my interests from my parents and feeling ashamed when they found anything non-mainstream of mine.

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    • AbKingPro@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Well I am about just a sad and relieved that I am not the only one who had this experience. Were you able to cope with it & heal ?

      Also care to share a few artists/albums? In exchange i will namedrop bleed the future by archspire

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      • DickFiasco@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Over time I learned to just own my weird tastes and not care what other people think, but I think that’s just something that comes with age. The music I got made fun of for was actually pretty basic, my dad was just disdainful of anything that wasn’t his music. The name “Racer X” just sounded “gay” to him, and I got shit for the album cover of Soul Asylum’s Grave Dancer’s Union because there’s two naked children on it. To make things right, I never make fun of my own kids for their weird shit, and I try to teach them not to criticize other people over meaningless things either.

        I hope you’ve also been able to heal from your experiences.

        Also, I just discovered Archspire about a year ago and I agree that Bleed the Future is an absolute banger.

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