Comment on Dating apps metaphor

Asafum@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• OwOarchist@pawb.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  did they message me first? 100% of the time they were bots.

  Not true!

  Some of the people who message you first are human! Human scammers, human onlyfans girls who want you to pay for nudes, etc.

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  • Asafum@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Good point, I unfairly took their humanity away when I included them in the bot category.

    …But then again they took their own humanity away when they decided to become scammers lol

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• notabot@piefed.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  It’s actually really simple: did they message me first? 100% of the time they were bots.

  The problem is, anyone you message is using the same test, thus deciding that you are a bot. The only logical way to handle this is to ensure you start all messages with “Greetings fellow human, I have perused the photographs of yourself that you put online. Not only are they very attractive – they’re interesting too. You did the right thing putting them up, and it was very brave to do so. I would lime to get to know you better…” That way no-one will be confused.

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• blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Idk, I get human girls messaging me somewhat regularly. Never the ones I want to see, but still…

  The difference between bots and humans is that bots dont go on dates

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  • Asafum@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I have to imagine that means you’re at least a somewhat desirable person.

    I am not lol

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    • Magnum@infosec.pub ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      There’s your problem

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• Anivia@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Is this some kind of American phenomenon? I’m very active on Tinder and get maybe one bot or scammer a year, out of over a hundred matches

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  • MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    But still no luck? Consider that the algorithm has the focus on engagement.

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    • Anivia@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I’ve had plenty of dates and situationships, nothing long term ever

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      • MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Right, you could also be looking for something casual, my bad.

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      • Magnum@infosec.pub ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Declining birth rates say something else.

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  • Asafum@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Not sure how it is now, I gave up completely over a year ago after a decade of trying. They were pretty bad ~2 years ago in the US.

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