Hard disagree. In all the healthier relationships I’ve been in, I want selfies of them (especially while they’re doing something fun), simply because I love them and want to see them enjoy themselves. Ideally, you’d also find your partner pleasant to look at.

As for the dick pics: have you never sexted before?

Your view is probably true of anyone who is sending dick pics unprompted, but there are plenty of scenarios where the pictures are being taken expressly for someone else, because both parties have already established mutual interest. I never take selfies unprompted, and I wouldn’t take a dick pic for no reason, but I’ve taken plenty of both to exchange with partners in the past when we couldn’t be together at the time.