Comment on Another redundant app

• stray@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Having a preference and whining are not the same thing.

  Things that are fine to say in relevant social contexts:

  • You look really cute without makeup.
  • I prefer lighter makeup.
  • I love heavy makeup looks.
  • I have sensory issues and can’t stand the smell of makeup at all.

  Things that are creepy to say in any context:

  • Women use makeup as a lie to trick men.
  • I want a traditional woman who doesn’t paint her face like a clown.
  • I don’t know how she expects to attract a man when she’s not even putting in any effort to do basic makeup.
  • I bet she’s really ugly without all that makeup.

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  • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    See this sounds like whining to me. How does one tell the difference?

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    • stray@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I think if you can’t tell the two categories apart you should talk about it with a healthcare professional. I don’t know what it’s called in English, but there exists a type of therapy focused on teaching and developing skills that could be helpful.

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      • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Healthcare professionals don’t generally judge people to be whining. They try to listen and understand them. Which is hard to do if you dismiss people as whining because you lack the emotional intelligence to hear their grievances.

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  • Holytimes@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Personally I find all make be it on a woman or man. To be the single ugliest thing a person can do to them self. Its vile and revolting. It looks highly unnatural, and actively causes me stress some times and I have no idea why. It triggers my flight or fight response when someone has too much on and I can’t accurately make out their features.

    Perfume and Cologne is the same way. In my 30 years of life iv never found a single perfume or cologne be it on a man or woman. That did not actively make me gag and make my eyes water. I can frequently taste it on the air long long after many people can’t. Which I assume is part of the problem. I’m just hyper sensitive to almost all fragrances.

    90% of laundry detergent, soaps, and basically anything with a scent does exactly the same thing to me.

    Iv been yelled at for involuntarily gaging when women walk by me because I can so strongly taste their perfume.

    If I could I would out right ban all make up and scents. They are terrible things and from the outside looking in. They seem to do nothing but perpetuate a endless cycle of social abuse. People get judged for using them. For not using them. For using too much, or not enough.

    So far as I can tell there’s not a single good thing socially that has come from the invention of non medical cosmetics.

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    • stray@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      This is valid:

      It triggers my flight or fight response when someone has too much on and I can’t accurately make out their features.

      This is needlessly insulting:

      the single ugliest thing a person can do to them self. Its vile and revolting.

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    • kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      What stray said but also omg, please write more clearly. Write full sentences and don’t put random sentence breaks in places they don’t belong. I assume this is a second language issue but it needs grammar work and as long as you’re being rude you can at least be easy to read.

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• EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I’m sorry, that sounds awfully close to whining about women wearing makeup.

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  • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    God forbid someone have an opinion on makeup that isn’t positive! Stone them!

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    • atomicorange@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      “I prefer it when you don’t brush your teeth”. So? Keep it to yourself weirdo, I’m not doing it for you.

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      • Holytimes@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        To a random person that makes sense … But like this is something partners typically express.

        Have you just never been in a healthy relationship where you can talk to your SO about their appearance and your preferences honestly?

        Being sexy for your partner requires you to actually understand their prefences and fetishes. So you can make appeals to them.

        There’s nothing wrong and if anything it’s highly unhealthy for the relationship to be scared to express your physical preferences. Its even worse if you are unable to accept the information openly.

        It sounds like you might just either have had horridly unhealthy experiences with men. Or are possibly just a narcissist. Depending on the context your speaking about.

        Seriously, a healthy relationship is foundationally built on understanding and part of that is knowing your partners perfences. It goes both ways.

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      • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Nobody is talking to you, though, or any specific woman, just women in general. That you equate 'I prefer women who shave their legs." with “Shave your legs, !” shows so kind of thinking, for sure.

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  • Holytimes@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I wine when anyone wears it men or women. Make up just sucks and freaks me out on a fundamental level. Shit scares the actual fuck out of me.

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• Malyca@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Not all men, but definitely you

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  • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    That’s the kind of flawed reasoning that makes the mess to begin with.

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    • Feathercrown@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      It’s not prejudiced to judge someone for their actual actions

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      • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        And what have you concluded about me from these alleged actions?

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• LurkingLuddite@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Found the manchild who cannot get it up. Sad.

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  • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Oh, attack the assumed sexual capabilities of your target, very original.

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• Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  God forbid a woman doesn’t want to hang out with you.

  (repeat for all women until no woman wants to hang out with you)

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  • minorkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Are you implying I suggested otherwise? I support a woman’s right to choose, as I do a man’s.

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