I can’t help that Gold’s Gym only paid me $25/hour for one hour per week. But it also meant a free gym membership to every Gold’s in Northern Virginia & Washington DC so I spent every waking minute of every day enjoying all those gyms. And I didn’t have a car. I was biking all around Northern Virginia and Washington DC to get to all these gyms. It was beautiful & the healthiest I’ve ever been in my life but bittersweet & maddeningly lonely, only exercise endorphins kept me sane. Then the Autumn rains began and biking became uncomfortable, then the winter snows commenced and biking became impossible. So I had to start walking & running to the gyms. Public transit was rarely logistically feasible. Once I took an Uber but couldn’t afford doing that more than once. Exercise was my passion & my joy & my antidepressant, and without endless exercise all day I would spiral into depression. Even at night when I got home after all that I would go running a few miles around the neighborhood before taking a shower and being able to fall asleep.
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captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 days agoSo, guys don’t care about a girls income that much. There’s an entire subculture of men that prefers or demands being the sole breadwinner of their families. I’m going to say the word “tradwife” and consider my point made.
Guys will go for an unemployed girl. Pretty and nice will get you a man. Which weren’t you?
Mind you, when I was in college I tutored freshman chemistry for an hour on Wednesdays and made more than $25/week at it; how delusional was your business plan?
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 3 days ago
was a yoga teacher for 3 years earning $25 a week and no man wanted me […] in Northern Virginia & Washington DC […] And I didn’t have a car.
TL;DR: even with treating your body like a temple, having a low income and low transportation mobility makes one unattractive in the DC metro.
In that region, single-income setups have low viability due to the egregious cost of living in the area, so people actively seek to partner up with high-income earners. Plus, the whole suburban sprawl is designed, and ultimately requires, cars in order to get around. You’d think that location would matter - and it does for schools and employment - but nobody lives near anyone else they want to date, and not being hyper mobile by driving all the time is practically a social death sentence. It can be a brutal environment that is hostile to most activities outside of earning an office-job income.
For example, the NoVA subreddit had recurring threads started by young professionals looking to move to the area. Every time, they’d ask where the nightlife is and what rent is like in those neighborhoods. Cue the entire subreddit throwing buckets of cold water on OP, as they’d get a reality check that as a post-grad, they’d be able to afford rent anywhere from 40-60 minutes (by car) from any such hot-spot. Oh, and the same would go for their commute too, and that might be just as far from said nightlife as it is from home.
1984@lemmy.today 3 days ago
I guess the exercise stopped your brain from thinking and that’s why it felt good. Sometimes physical pain is much easier than emotional pain.
What do you do in the medical care system now?
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
What do you do in the medical care system now?
Currently in the waiting room for dermatology appointment because my post-op breast cancer scars aren’t healing properly.
And any day now my prescription driving glasses should be ready to pickup at the eye care building.
And the psychiatrist & I have been at an impasse since 2022 because she refuses to prescribe me vyvanse although it’s the only medication I’ve ever taken that makes me feel normal.
So unmedicated, I get hospitalized occasionally to prevent killing myself.
Meanwhile physical therapists have come in clutch helping me through my excruciating lordosis & medial epicondylitis & bone spurs/ bursitis in my shoulders.
1984@lemmy.today 3 days ago
Sounds like you are playing life on hard mode. Hang in there. I’ve had periods of life when it’s been difficult but it got a lot better. Sometimes random events happen, you meet someone, and things feel better.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 3 days ago
Uhh glad you got in the VA system but I think you don’t just need a new psychiatrist, you need a new country. Which of course is easier said than done.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Exercise feels good & makes me think clear productive positive thoughts. There is no physical pain involved.
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Ah, you were a don’t-stick-your-dick-in-crazy.
Sazruk@lemmy.wtf 3 days ago
Jackass
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
lol whatever.
Reverse the genders and tell me how women would treat that guy.
Psionicsickness@reddthat.com 4 days ago
Yeah, none of that story sounded based in any form of reality.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
How can I delete your uninformed comment?