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Pudutr0n@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• TachyonTele@piefed.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I bet you’re right. Im dreading when my parents get Old and need assistance. I am in no way prepared for that.
  And then I’ll be alone when I get old. No kids to help me then.

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• AbsolutelyClawless@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  My father’s counterargument to my refusing to procreate is exactly this. “Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” What that told me is his main reason for having kids was to have someone do that for him. Funny, because despite having lived under the same roof, he wasn’t much in my life, or has made any positive inpact on me. Everything was on mom (and sometimes grandmother). And now listening to him talk like some day I will move back to the country and abandon my entire life to take care of him/them, while right at this moment he’s being extremely financially irresponsible? Cool cool cool. My partner’s mother expects the same, all the while she doesn’t work at all because it’s beneath her.

  With that said, I find having children for the sole purpose of them taking care of me in my old age not only selfish (especially with the imminent climate colapse), it’s also risky (and I’m not even talking cases where the child has disabilities and can’t take care of their own needs). And that’s in the case I even live that long.

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  • Pudutr0n@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m sorry your dad’s an asshole and I’m sure you can get purpose and meaning without kids.

    Would you mind if I asked you about the people/things you love? On a really rough day, what gets you out of bed?

    Sometimes it’s a struggle for me.

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  • RecursiveParadox@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Your dad is indeed quite selfish.

    But I think we will start to go back to the multigenerational housing. Young folks can’t afford a house, so live with their folks, have kids, who help with the kinds …and then their folks need care as they age.

    Could be a virtuous circle or a vicious one depending on your family/situation.

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• exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I got along with my parents really well in my 20’s and 30’s, and it’s kinda hard watching them age now, but we got 2 good decades, maybe 3, of both generations being functional adults who love each other and enrich each other’s lives.

  I enjoyed being childless in my 20’s and early 30’s, and anticipate enjoying having 20+ year old children in my late 50’s onward.

  Babies and toddlers are whatever. I love my children but still don’t really like other people’s children. But as they (and their peers and their cousins and their friends) grow older, I can definitely see personalities form and become future adults who I will really enjoy spending time with.

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• MBech@feddit.dk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Shouldn’t get kids because you might need them when you’re old. Chances are, you’ll hear from them once every couple months because they have their own lives to deal with.

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• subverted_per@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I dont expect to make it to 80 unless I somehow manage to survive my country losing world War 3 and stull having to go to work cause capitalists stole what little I had saved for retirement.

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• Default_Defect@anarchist.nexus ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  LOL I won’t make it to 80.

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• Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yeah and all my tattoos will look dumb then too.

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  • Pudutr0n@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Idk. Maybe. If you keep your love for what they represented to you, who cares though?

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