Comment on Who's in the wrong here?
SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago
The one who flaked, and then said that there were better options. I’d respond just like the one who luckily got away.
“Hey, I’m so sorry to do this, but, something came up”.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 4 days ago
“Excuse me?!? You’re supposed to be absolutely crushed by me blowing you off! I’m clearly in the right and you should be upset about it.”
Green dodged a bullet.
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 3 days ago
If grey’s other opportunity didn’t work out, they probably would have unashamedly reached out to green again for a new date, if that exchange hadn’t happened.
Non-zero chance they will anyways, especially if grey is a guy.
Though I had a woman get surprised and upset when I declined a 3rd reschedule after she went uncommunicative twice when I asked the “we still on today?”. Apparently she didn’t have a mobile plan or internet at home and had to go to some public WiFi to communicate and both times had shit come up with her kids, though the second time was her son’s birthday party, which isn’t something that generally just pops up on you by surprise. It’s not even punishment, just the emotional rollercoaster before we even had a first date killed any interest in having a good relationship with her, just like that cancelation message in the OP would have.
smh@slrpnk.net 3 days ago
oof, that sucks.
Vaguely related story: Back in the Olden Times before ubiquitous wifi and data plans, I had a friend cancel on me after I’d already gotten in the light rail to meet him an hour away. He didn’t call or text, just emailed, so I looked for him for almost an hour before giving up.
Turns out he’d emailed me then was at the hospital with a friend who’d gone into labor, and didn’t have his phone with him (so didn’t get my calls or texts).
My partner (who’d come with to meet my high school friend) and I had a good time in DC anyway. We went to a geeky bookstore and a nice cafe.