I was a fool for this type of shit once. Granted, I was 17, with no emotional intelligence or confidence. He saw an opportunity to be able to control someone, and it worked. I will honestly never forgive myself for the years I wasted. Unfortunately, this is not uncommon.
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GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I always wonder how these guys behave up until the point where they pretty much literally say “I’m a deadbeat asshole”. How do they fool these women into dating?
jade52@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
Zink@programming.dev 1 month ago
Are they really such amazing actors
Unfortunately I don’t think they need to be good actors in the first place.
One of the lessons of the last decade of the shit show that we call human society has been that awful and/or stupid people rise to positions of power and influence every day by acting confident and promising things they can’t deliver.
The modern confidence man isn’t the thief of the street but the legitimate executive.
BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
50/50 this dude is super attractive and has never had to learn any better. I knew several of these in college. This has worked for them.
Sybilvane@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
People can turn on a dime, I’ve seen it happen. It’s especially infuriating because a lot of these men’s friends will only know the good version of them and refuse to believe they’re capable of being dicks.
It’s not just good acting, it’s that some men genuinely aren’t capable of treating a partner like a person and not a thing. So they can be nice to people they consider people, or to partners who are behaving they way they deem is correct. But the second you’re dating and something doesn’t fit their narrative of how things should play out, the claws come out.
Nora@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
Yeah its like it doesn’t bother him when he first starts talking and dating but will suddenly switch as soon as he feels insecure.