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MNByChoice@midwest.social 1 day ago
An issue with post-interstate USA is the ability to move away from family for education and work, also fragmented the extended family. Managing life, everything and a under-6 month old infant takes way more than two people. (Day care in many areas will accept an infant at 6 weeks, which while huge, is also problematic.)
I expect the only solution is get rich and help your kids with the grand kids. (UBI!)
None of this is an excuse to fuck off and not help. It is pathetic when men say “and I never changed a diaper”. Hardly a parent at all at that point.
This is a severely under-discussed consequence of modern culture distancing family “connections”.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s only about 4 people on my side of the extended family I actually miss, and 3 on my wife’s side. That’s being generous. But not having that reliable help if you don’t have an absolutely amazing social group makes raising a kid through early childhood an absolute slog.
We don’t have kids but between the 2 of us we have 1 parent that could get here the same day if needed. 2 who we could see if willing to spend a fortune on the train to very remote areas and a full days travel. 1 who we don’t know what country they are in or even if they are still alive.
So any extra childcare would be entirely reliant on 1 person. We could move to change that to a different person but that hardly helps, there is no location that would be close to any 2 of our parents.
A lot of grandparents still work these days as well, further limiting their ability to help with childcare.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
My brother-in-law is like that. Has the kids on the weekends (yup) and refers to it as “babysitting”… his own children. I know he must see all that I do for mine. It makes me nauseous, but I try not to get involved.