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MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

Love-bombing a love-bomber can get epic, but then there’s the fallout when the one drops the act and is terrified by the possibilities that: you weren’t acting, you were just matching their energy and can meet them down in the trenches before they can actually drag you down, and/or you knew what they were up to and refuse to be made to have a problem with it(see “weren’t acting”).

Now you’re stuck with a bait-and-switcher who cannot grasp that you might not be pulling the same trick they just failed to land.

If this sounds like a lot of drama and a massive pain, it is, and that’s why its not recommended over disengaging once you’ve realized what’s happening.

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yakko@feddit.uk ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Sometimes I wish I could take psychopathy for a test drive, just to see what it’s like to be emotionally invulnerable for a day. This is the kind of thing I’d want to do.

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- MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Psychopathy? Autism? BPD?
  
  I stay medicated and too busy doing right by my family to dwell on it, but I have enough emotional depth that I sometimes wonder if I didn’t just decide to try to think and act like an unhinged psychopath one day(WAY before I met my wife…) in the hopes of avoiding abuse & despair. I’ll tell you this much: Whatever the case, that last part definitely didn’t work-out.
  
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  - yakko@feddit.uk ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I know enough about psychopathy specifically to know it would be interesting to try for a few hours, but longer than that it might ruin my life. My sense of empathy often gives me grief, but it serves a purpose.
    
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    LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Same. Some days, my sense of “this is not right, people should not do this, I should not do this” is preventing me from doing really stupid things.
    
    Besides, what if you did something ethically bad and get away with it, and then the empathy comes back? Wouldn’t you just hate yourself that you scammed an old lady of her retirement money and destroyed some poor kid’s future for minor personal gain on the way home?
    
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