I’d say EQ (emotional) is more useful on a daily basis
Just curious, what’s the most important one?
grranibal@lemmy.zip 8 hours ago
turdas@suppo.fi 8 hours ago
Maybe, but I don’t know if that’s a good thing. Social intelligence is how CEOs and other charlatans get disproportionate success in society, and if all we had was social intelligence humanity would be nothing but smooth-talking cavemen.
hayvan@piefed.world 8 hours ago
If we all had emotional intelligence, we’d be good at seeing through the shit of smooth-talking cavemen.
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 minutes ago
We almost all have, but those without (at least those with ego problems) hone their skills their entire life to fool everyone else. IMO.
turdas@suppo.fi 7 hours ago
Good point.
Iconoclast@feddit.uk 4 hours ago
People often say that psychopaths act like they do because they don’t know how it makes people feel but the opposite is actually true - they know exactly how other people feel which is why they’re so good at manipulating them. They simply just don’t feel bad about taking advantage of that.
Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
There is scientific evidence for the existence of emotional intelligence, but it not yet clearly defined nor easily measured. sciencealert.com/scientists-weigh-in-on-the-evide…
idiomaddict@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
Imo definitely common sense, which might not be a formal category of intelligence, but it follows from empathy, risk assessment, and understanding of consequences. Sociologists could probably do research to nail down an exact definition through and psychologists could probably measure it, though I suspect it would only really work intrademographically. What’s common sense for a rich, well spoken, fourteen year old white girl is different from common sense for a poor, uneducated sounding, twenty five year old black man, because they unfortunately face very different potential consequences for the same actions.
As an example
When I was the former in the US, I used to seek out and make conversation with cops if I was planning to buy or carrying (well sealed and odorless) weed at an event, because I figured they’d think I was less likely to do that if I was committing a crime, so they’d be less suspicious of me/give me more leniency if they caught me (because police corruption is a fractal: any amount of positive or negative interaction with them confers exactly that amount of forbearance or spite in future interactions). That’s terrible common sense for the latter demographic, but it worked very well for me and most of the white stoner girls I knew. Even the same demographic but older has different ideas of sensibleness. I would never seek out a cop like that today, because: A) I know that the real reason it used to work probably has more to do with us having been young teenage girls recognizing their authority than with us seeming more innocent (though the corruption bit was right), and wouldn’t apply to a woman as old as I am anymore*; and B) what works best for my current demographic is just blending in (or I guess getting way closer to a cop, but that’s both skin crawling and a much longer game than I am willing to play).
/* I’d argue it’s partial credit for common sense there and partially luck that my theory had positive consequences in common with reality, but this exemplifies the problem of letting each demographic decide for themselves what constitutes “common sense,” and use it as a metric for correct behavior /** (I’m sorry about the footnote within a footnote, my ADHD meds just kicked in on a day when I have nothing to do for the first time in over two months, after just finishing teaching a six week long German intensive course, teaching the same group for four hours every weekday, and the fediverse is the victim of my hyperfocus today). Common sense might convince an adult not to trust the extremely rare sketchy-seeming but totally genuine opportunity, but it might also convince a teenager to trust the teacher or other adult entrusted with their safety who’s willing to buy them alcohol and nicotine products. However, if we allow people to weigh in for all of their younger demographic counterparts, we would risk making common sense impossible for all but the most mature people, thus making it no longer the metric we’re looking for. /** it’s not really an issue for our definition or measurement of it though, it doesn’t really change things if common sense is sometimes wrongCh3rry314@piefed.social 8 hours ago
I put more points into my Wisdom stat.
realitista@lemmus.org 8 hours ago
Sexiness
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 minutes ago
And connections.
RaoulDuke25@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 hours ago
Rizz
Monument@piefed.world 1 hour ago
Humans are social animals. If you can’t rizz your bosses to promote you and your coworkers to help you, then you’re stuck and alone.