Yeah, go alone. Why take your mum? Enjoy it.
I love doing this with late night showings. its fun
it’s fine to go to the movies alone. make it an evening just for you. buy an irresponsible amount of snacks and just get lost in it.
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DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
I kinda have separation anxiety…
I feel like its good family bonding time too…
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 hours ago
The separation anxiety doesn’t go away if you don’t separate sometimes.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
aaaaahhhhh
My parents fucked up my brain…
From birth to like 12 years old… I wasn’t allowed to go outside by myself…
Just home all the time… or in school…
Never played with a peer outside of school…
Every time I wanna go outside… its with mom…
so the inertia just remained…
I think I first was allowed to walk home by myself in like 6th grade… I was 13
after that, I only went to the library like a few times…
But besides those rare moments, never been alone outside (besides home or school or walking to and from school) by myself…
Feels like climbing mt everest
Like I never even felt brave enough to like… ask someone to just hang out after school hours…
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 hours ago
I know it’s hard, I also have lots of experience getting over fears. I was myself extremely socially afraid and afraid of all kinds of things in a less severe manner.
I have an Singaporean girlfriend right now who is similar, who I’m helping through it as well.
Believe me, I know the struggle. It’s so unbelievably hard to do things you’re afraid of and the main problem is that it all happens inside your head. All the effort you’re putting in is basically invisible to an outsider. They might push you because they don’t see how much you’re already doing, which just makes it worse because you start feeling like you should be doing more, and then on top of feeling afraid you also feel like shit because you do “so little”, which is not little at all.
You can do it, I believe in you :D if you want any more words, I’m here, I don’t wanna ramble on and on lol
Steve@communick.news 8 hours ago
It’s not good family bonding time, sitting and not talking to each other.
It’s better than nothing, but any activity that explicitly directs you all to interact with each other is better.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
Eh…
Find seats next to each other and like just… being in the presense of each other…
And there’s something to talk about afterwards… that’s an issue… mom really wants to “talk to me” but there’s no topics to talk about… movies can spark a conversation afterwards…
I mean what other activity do you recommend?
That aren’t too stressful for someone like me with depression?
Steve@communick.news 8 hours ago
I like cooperative tabletop games.
Check out your local game store. See what they recomend for cooperative games with simple rules for beginners. Pick up one or two that seem interesting to you.
For the whole seperation thing, try going to the game store on your own. Come up with some options, then talk to mom about what seems interesting. Then go again on your own and buy whatever you agreed to try.
That way jist getting the games could serve both helping with separation and bonding at the same time.