You want your friend group to have a person with a strong back and a pickup, a white square looking person to talk to cops and bouncers, someone good with computers, someone who can cook, someone who knows where the parties are, and, most importantly, you need the glue person.

Texting and organizing and remembering birthdays and who can’t eat gluten and stuff is effort and it’s easier for some people than others.

Most people do not like making decisions. Having one person who does the deciding of “we will be friends who stay in touch” is actually really important.