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konomi@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

• RamenJunkie@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I do wonder if the “strsngers online” part didn’t help.

  You get, I dunno, call them the most popular/attractive women, who attract random compliments. Constantly getting strangers telling them “you’re pretty.” Coupoe with the actual weirdos sending them DMs like “Show me your feet,” and that maked the woman bitter and jaded so even basic compliments start to get (justifiably) negative back, even if its “You’re pretty” or even lesser comments (say, “I like your art”).

  Then those guys start to equate this behavior to every woman, including real life. Especially as it also starts to morph a bit on the women’s side into “Dudes are all creeps.”

  And I am not trying to blame either men nor women here, just that it becomes its own toxic snowball that results in incels.

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• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  “My girlfriend is also my best friend” is a thing you see often in healthy relationships.

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  • cravl@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I never understood the whole aversion to “the friend zone.” Like, isn’t that exactly what you need to be first before you can build a romance on top?

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    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      When you’re transitioning between pre-teen and teenager, and the hormones are hitting hard, kids often have a hard time processing unrequited affection

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      • Garbagio@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        That, and I think a lot of people confuse sexual attraction with love. The “friendzone” only exists when you end up in the mental gap between “I want to have sex with this person, but don’t care about them as a person” and “I want to have sex with this person, therefore I must care about them as a person.” Normal consenting adults can meet someone, vibe, and engage in sexual behavior without necessarily more. Normal consenting adults can also meet someone, not vibe, and be fine, if not a little disappointed. Normal consenting adults can also meet someone, vibe, and explore a romantic connection beyond sexual activity. Once you understand that sexual desire is not romantic desire, and that romantic desire is actually really unfulfilling if not reciprocated, you’re usually good.

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• Asetru@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  🤯

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• UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Showing genuine interest in dick pickz and caring about getting the other person getting off has been working wonders on Grindr

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