Comment on Anon changes his strategy
MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Its always confounded me that, somewhere along the line, Simping:Spending time and money to let a stranger on the internet know you think she’s pretty and you likely see romance as transactional, got conflated with “Simping”: having the guts and sincerity to compliment a woman in-person, without reservation or expectation of reward.
Like, what? How did that become a thing?
Oh “why do good girls like bad guys” is one of those questions of the ages. It exists for many reasons, but the short list is:
there’s a fine line between confidence and assholery
there’s a bunch of emotions that are neurochemically identical and than can often be misattributed as each other and “scared” and “horny” share most of the same neurotransmitters.
daddy issues and other psychosocial toxicity that you probably don’t want anything to do with anyway.
I think the change happened more quickly because of parasocial relationships, aka someone throwing tons of money and attention at a streamer/OF model and expecting reciprocated feelings.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Extreme insecurity is a terrifying thing, so withholding and abusing as a form of control to distance yourself from the parts of yourself that are insecure is the “solution.” Then they stay in social spaces where it’s standard practice to reinforce this nonsense and bob’s your uncle, you’ve got an incel.
Figuring out how to be comfortable around people in a way that doesn’t isolate you is a simple idea to vocalize, but a pretty massive undertaking.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
It’s a skill that develops with practice.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I don’t imagine any of these people understand that they need to practice it, given the reinforcement. Recognizing that you’ve reached a local maxima is also hard