Has nobody had a talk with them about how they’re raising someone incapable of taking care of himself? Do they plan to outlive him? I come from the opposite end of the parental academic aid spectrum, so I don’t understand the thought process at all. Is it just untreated anxiety on their part?
Comment on Many parents cab probably relate
imsufferableninja@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
My cousin is still doing his son’s school work. 2nd year in college
Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
dev_null@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
Their kids’ needs don’t matter, what matters is that the parent has a successful child. The measure of success is of course from the point of view of the selfish parent.
can@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Yes, that is there mindset.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Honestly, the amount of parents that act like their precious little baby is going to always be a precious little baby is astounding. It’s like the idea that their child is going to someday become an adult doesn’t enter their minds. They don’t realize how much they’re setting their kids up for failure by refusing to allow (let alone encourage) them to do things independently.
There are times and places to step in and help your child, absolutely. But as they get older, those times should become rarer and rarer. To hand-hold all the time doesn’t build their confidence, doesn’t let them hone their skills, and encourages dependence on someone else to always do things for them. It’s hard, but it’s a part of growing up.
MNByChoice@midwest.social 2 days ago
If college is just a certificate needed to get the good jobs, then this makes a lot of sense.
If college is there for learning, then it is terrible.I bet there is a difference in the ratios between degrees on these. (i.e. Civil Engineering versus Marketing)
T3CHT@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
And let me guess, he’s “not a good test taker”?
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Damn, how are neither of them ashamed‽
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 2 days ago
I know the youngster in one of these kinds of situations, and she is ashamed. She’s also intimidated into compliance and desperate to leave so she can have her own life.
can@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
It’s not her fault, she was born into it, but it’s still sad.
can@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Is he going to work his job too?