Comment on Many parents cab probably relate

imsufferableninja@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• can@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Is he going to work his job too?

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• Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Has nobody had a talk with them about how they’re raising someone incapable of taking care of himself? Do they plan to outlive him? I come from the opposite end of the parental academic aid spectrum, so I don’t understand the thought process at all. Is it just untreated anxiety on their part?

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  • dev_null@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Their kids’ needs don’t matter, what matters is that the parent has a successful child. The measure of success is of course from the point of view of the selfish parent.

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    • can@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Yes, that is there mindset.

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  • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Honestly, the amount of parents that act like their precious little baby is going to always be a precious little baby is astounding. It’s like the idea that their child is going to someday become an adult doesn’t enter their minds. They don’t realize how much they’re setting their kids up for failure by refusing to allow (let alone encourage) them to do things independently.

    There are times and places to step in and help your child, absolutely. But as they get older, those times should become rarer and rarer. To hand-hold all the time doesn’t build their confidence, doesn’t let them hone their skills, and encourages dependence on someone else to always do things for them. It’s hard, but it’s a part of growing up.

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• MNByChoice@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  If college is just a certificate needed to get the good jobs, then this makes a lot of sense.
  If college is there for learning, then it is terrible.

  I bet there is a difference in the ratios between degrees on these. (i.e. Civil Engineering versus Marketing)

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• T3CHT@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  And let me guess, he’s “not a good test taker”?

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• captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Damn, how are neither of them ashamed‽

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  • Grail@multiverse.soulism.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I know the youngster in one of these kinds of situations, and she is ashamed. She’s also intimidated into compliance and desperate to leave so she can have her own life.

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    • can@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      It’s not her fault, she was born into it, but it’s still sad.

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