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JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

My mother was a social worker in New York and Philly during the sixties and seventies. She use to tell me (as a pre-pubescent child) about how she use to have to put young girls (10-13) on birth control and how some already had a child at 13. I hit puberty at 10 so she gave me the talk about how regular masturbation was healthy and showed me how to put on a condom.

Decades later and I’m still emotionally scarred. *shiver*

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SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
You would have preferred being uninformed? Yeah her methods and timing might not have been the best, but take it from someone who knows - you were better off.

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- JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Oh, I 100% agree. Still, that was…something.
  
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  - crank0271@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Having an awkward talk awkwardly: ew. Having an awkward talk openly: also ew.
    
    Good for your mother, though. I imagine you learned from her what many of us learned from the internet, books, media, peers, partners, and other sources.
    
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    JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Getting sex ed and intercourse tips from my mother was horrifying, but it saved me from many mistakes. Not all, but many.
    
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Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
That’s not so much being upfront and honest with sex as it is trauma dumping on you. The fact that you’re emotionally scared from it decades later is a big clue here.

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- JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  I think you meant “emotionally scarred” but if I’m honest, “emotionally scared” is also true.
  
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- fodor@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  I am curious what they meant by “emotionally scarred”. Like, reality can be harsh, and learning that leaves an impression, but that doesn’t mean that the process was messed up, although it could have been.
  
  Awkward is not bad, not always. It depends on the details.
  
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Zombie@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

and showed me how to put on a condom.

Decades later and I’m still emotionally scarred. *shiver*

I really hope that’s just poor phrasing…

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- JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  On a banana dude! Same as they do (or did) in school. Sheesh!
  
  LOL, it was poor phrasing.
  
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  - Waraugh@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Man, even after the edit I was like wtf, did she put a condom on her erect 10 yo’s dick?!
    
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