As another middle-aged long hair guy who has been approached numerous times by women asking about my haircare routine, I think there are multiple components to this:
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Hair is most definitely affected by hormones, multiple women told me that their hair becomes straw-like during periods or how they lost a lot of hair after pregnancy and I was like sorry can’t relate 😅 I honestly believe if more men didn’t cut their hair short they’d be generally better looking than women’s, well, until they start balding.
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Some kind of pink tax or whatever. Every shampoo that I tried in a cute semi-transparent colored bottle that boasted some bullshit like lavender extract, durian aroma, ginkgo biloba seeds and such, has always destroyed my hair and took months to recover. Cheap shampoos that plain-ish looking packaging(pantene, head&shoulders, syoss) have worked well for me, with no noticeable difference from the fancy 5x pricier shampoos that my girlfriend has forced me to try. My cousin even uses plain soda bar and his hair is looking even better than mine.
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Less is more. It seems like every other woman I know are constantly fucking with their hair all the time. Wash two times a day, apply conditioner, then another conditioner, then a spray, and serum, a gel, and mousse, add perfume on top, mix a whole chemical lab on top of their head, then curl them, then straighten them back up, apply a different tightly knit hairstyle every day, then cut them short because of a break up, then color them, then bleach and color them again into another color, then cut them with a guillotine because that’s the trend nowadays, then straight up rip chunks of them out because of stress. Like girl, all you need is to fuck off your hair and just wash them once every 3-5 days, and only rinse on others. Then just let the nature do it’s thing, and if it doesn’t, you need to pay a visit to a trichologist, dermatologist and probably also gastroenterologist and therapist, not yet another bottle on the shelf.
JillyB@beehaw.org 1 day ago
I don’t necessarily mean more maintenance as in more washing/conditioning. I mean that you have to more carefully consider what your hair needs. You actually need to wash your hair more often with short hair since the grease has less room to spread out. When I was growing my hair out, I knew I didn’t want to look like the long-haired metal-head with a big frizzy mess. I gradually started washing it less and conditioning it more. Now I don’t condition but I oil it after washing. That seems to keep the split ends at bay and give some nice locks without too much greasiness. If I still washed it every time I showered like I did with short hair, it would look like brittle shit.
Afaithfulnihilist@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Yes this is true. You still have to do the maintenance. I do have to brush it twice a day, and the lady taught me the virtue of brushing it from the bottom up so I got that going for me. My hair is the longest it’s been since I started brushing it correctly 😅
JillyB@beehaw.org 21 hours ago
👀 brushing from the bottom up, you say.
Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 21 hours ago
This is a thing i learned having girl kids. They still mean you brush away from your scalp, but start at the bottom.
Go a few inches up from the tip and brush down. When thats done, move up again, repeat.
This gets the knots out of your hair instead of pushing them down then giving you a massive rats nest at the tip of your hair. It really does make the process so much easier and my kids complain so much less