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Comment on Discussion Thread ⏰ Thursday 4 December 2025

Big Feelings

I’m tired. Tired of applying for so many jobs and getting no response. Tired of being passed over. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong because no one has given any constructive feedback - either I’m ghosted or told it was basically down to a dice roll - so how do I improve? How can I not take it personally? How can I not think it’s something to do with me? Yes I can volunteer, but I also am a slave to our techno-neo-capitalist society and need to have employment too. I’m just upset and rambling I’m sorry, and it’s late and I’m so so deflated and flat, but my god this fucking hurts.

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LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I’m sorry Spud :(

In the same boat, applying to jobs, never hearing back. They must be getting many applicants

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anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I’m so sorry you’re going through this - job hunting sucks and the rejections are horrible.

Further to Taleya’s comment, in my field jobs also get advertised even when someone has already been chosen, they just have to appear to be being ‘equitable’ employment-wise. Then, surprise surprise, the biggest suck or boss’s bestie lands the role.

Also, hiring managers are just people and some aren’t so great at their jobs, particularly when it comes to providing useful feedback or even being tactful with rejections.

Hugs and I hope you’re feeling a bit better soon

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Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
hugs

Thing to remember, poor sop that it is: A large number of these jobs never existed. If you were ghosted, it was probably a pos that never actually looked to hire. So you can write those absolutely off as a “it’s not me, its you lying cunts”

unfortunately this means the actual number of jobs is much much smaller, and you’re competing in a much tougher pool. And yet, you’re still getting to dice rolls, so it’s nothing on your end that’s not closing the deal, just shit luck and a bad market

job hunting is an exercise in humiliation and shitness and I fucking hate that you have to go through this.

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tombruzzo@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
It sucks so much. I found going for volume of applications over quality and finding decent recruiters is the way to go.

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Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
When the the game is stacked against you unfairly it would be foolish to play by the rules of ethics.

Cheat until you can get to a place where you can hopefully influence the rules to make them fairer.

According to tons of studies our biggest assets are connections and class, this is what gives middle and upper class people an edge.

Go to student services at the college you studied at and ask for assistance. They might have leads.

So for now fuck volunteering, go join some clubs in posh areas. Join your local political party ( standard parties, not student activist ones )

see if you can use a friend’s postal address if they live in a better area. A house might cost 1 mill in the west or inner north but it’s still the west and inner north

and hugs, lots and lots of hugs

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melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
I get it. Personal info deleted but I get it. I managed to secure a steady job but had many refusals prior and ultimately lost it due to my health.

I’m completely out of touch and my past experience no longer applies so this may be boomer advice, but is it possible to temporarily change fields to gig work or side hustles just to get some money up and regroup?

Long ramble of unsolicited advice if you wanted to read it
Elderly and disability care can be hard and emotionally confronting, and not easy if you have a disability yourself and/or lack a car. There may be tasks you can’t physically do or inappropriate or dangerous behaviour. But there are clients who just need help with routine cleaning or need errands done. Lacking a car will go against you as transport to appointments can be very important but maybe sign up to something like Mabel and see if you can find some clients close by? Even if it just means picking up their medication, getting their shopping, or being some form of social interaction. I’m not sure what qualifications are needed or if there are any, sorry. But I do know you can set specific areas you will work in. I’d suggest petsitting if you didn’t have a partner and your own pet. Drop in care could still work as some cats get very stressed in catteries and prefer to stay in their own homes. Dog walking could be another casual side hustle if physically possible. Cleaning is a hard one as it could be physically exhausting and low pay. I don’t have experience but maybe check out work as an NDIS cleaner in case it might offer fairer pay and conditions (not sure). I’m not sure if you’re handy at all but there are people who struggle with male tradies and would feel safer with a non-man/queer person in their home. However this is potentially a risk to you. I don’t have experience but there could be occasional work as a life model. It’s long boring work but cash in hand. You probably could negotiate to be in shorts and a tank, and I’d recommend approaching reputable art teachers or schools for reasons of safety and dignity. I don’t know what the pay is like. I understand if you don’t feel comfortable. But all body types are welcomed.

TW risk of sexual harassment and assault?
In case you were thinking it - avoid those “cash for modeling” flyers. They will be for adult shoots and you won’t have the rights to the photographs which means you don’t have control of when where or how they get used. Also be very careful of independent photographers as you risk pervy Guy With Camera and potential coercion. No experience myself with either but I knew a few models and heard shit. Also it’s not lucrative, most were time for print (or whatever) which means they modeled in return for copies of the photos for their portfolios - aka ‘paid in exposure’. Not worth it.

I’m very sorry if this is poor and out of touch advice. I read it back and it sounds like I’m advising you to get a paper route… it’s just all I’ve been able to think up.

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- Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  liquor licensing isn’t just for bartending, it can actually open up a lot of opportunities including being able to just sit at a counter at a woolies BWS. If you do food service or retail professionally it’s worth getting your paws on one if you can.
  
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- StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  I appreciate you taking the time to think about me and ways to move forward, truly I appreciate it deeply and it means so much to me.
  
  I have much to think upon, I just have to be mindful to separate the depression thoughts from the constructive thoughts lol
  
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  - melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    I’m so sorry to offer advice instead of comfort. It sucks
    
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    StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Everyone shows they care in different ways, I’m not upset by you or anything :) I adore you Melbs 💜
    
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