“I’ve been listening to your conversation” is not a good way to start. There are some exceptions, but even then you’re starting on thin ice and have to ease into it.
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Fizz@lemmy.nz 2 months agoNah its not creepy. Its perfectly fine to ask her out like that she just didnt want it and rejected him in a bit of an over the top way.
treesapx@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
You shouldnt have to rehearse the perfect line that is impossible to be offended by just to talk to a stranger. We aren’t robots. We dont always hit 100% of the time. We stumble and overextend. Expectations have gotten out of hand.
arctanthrope@lemmy.world 2 months ago
you are allowed to stumble on the first line. and it may come off poorly. and if it does the other person is perfectly valid for not wanting to engage further. therefore if you want the other person to continue to engage, you should try not to come off poorly. this isn’t some newfangled social phenomenon, it’s how basic human interaction has worked for millennia
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
You did a thing where you almost said something but then turned around and didnt.
snooggums@piefed.world 2 months ago
"I couldn't help but hear your drunken rantings."
frog_brawler@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I couldn’t help but overhear you and your loud as fuck m, half-drunk friends….
lvxferre@mander.xyz 2 months ago
Asking her out would be fine; the problem, as I already explained, is how. However I do agree with you that her answer was over the top; a simple “No.” would be the best.
It was clearly an issue to the Anon, check the last paragraph.
He wasn’t just striking up a conversation.
Additionally (and that’s neither side’s fault), mob mentality is a plague. She was in a group of four people; people typically behave worse in groups than alone.