you missed the best time to figure out parenthood
but good on you for self improvement while working and raising a kid
Comment on SipsTea
abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 18 hours agoHaven’t had a problem with it. Life’s expensive, I couldn’t afford anything, but I still can’t and I don’t think I would’ve otherwise.
I dropped out of collge at 23 and didn’t know what to do with my life. So took a job in a factory and we had a kid.
Now I’m 35 and I’m older, wiser, better. And I’m now finishing my bachelor and starting my career as a software developer. All while many other software developers my age are dropping out because of burn out or bore out.
I’d argue it’s much more fun to figure out parenthood while you’re young and relatively free with plenty of time and energy for your kid. than to figure out parenthood when you’re older, more tired and have to work a demanding career.
baines@lemmy.cafe 15 hours ago
Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Everyone is different, but a lot of studies show that late 20s / early 30s is a sweet spot for stability and not encountering big risks with conceiving.
That said, having kids in your early 20’s, and early 30’s both sounds miserable to me.
i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 minutes ago
I had mine in my early 20s. Sucked. Laying the groundwork for my own stability was a lot harder than it should have been, but I got it done anyway with a combination of a mountain of determination, an incredible amount of work, natural talent and smarts, and so much luck.
But the child will be an adult by the time I am 40, so I got that going for me.