Whoa whoa buddy, nobody is shitting on you for your preferences.
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The original post by this woman stating “how many drinks would it take for you to forget I have a dick” is part of the problem because it normalizes the idea of a beautiful woman having a dick as a fetish instead of just “some beautiful women have dicks.”
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When someone says “who cares” they aren’t necessarily saying there is anything wrong with a different opinion. In my case, it was meant as an implication that the original question itself is problematic to begin with.
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I didn’t feel attacked when @IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world suggested that “you are the bottom, ya lucky bastard” despite the fact that I am strictly a top when it comes to trans women… because they weren’t implying that was something wrong with feeling differently and I upvoted them because it was funny.
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A lot of those women (who aren’t busy using fetishization of their dicks as a business model) don’t actually like having a dick and want to get a full bottom transition surgery but cannot afford it and/or are prevented from pursuing it due to how fucked American healthcare and the issue of being trans is treated at all. Even if you don’t like the bits they have now, there may be a future where they no longer have those bits, and in the meantime there’s two other holes they might be happy to have you sexually active in. In my experience, a lot of transwomen who still have their original equipment don’t want it touched at all because it’s a reminder of their gender dysphoria/dysmorphia.
Anyway, wasn’t meant to say that you can’t have your preferences.
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 3 days ago
As long as you respect others’ gender and sexuality, you are under no obligation to feel sexually attracted to them the same way they aren’t obligated to feel sexually attracted to you. Love and respect for all is the bottom line.