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gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

Clean and decorate your home. Develop a sense of style. Go out and do things and meet people. Challenge yourself to do something interesting every week. Talk to people, get out of your shell.

literally every single one of these things are things that i don’t like

decorating. i love no decoration, no bullshit, bare-bones approach
style. a way for fashion corporations to sell you a new t-shirt every week
just do things^TM^. an agenda to make the economy run hot. consume things. visit the zoo. be part of our great imperial society.
“Challenge yourself to do something interesting every week”. In other words, never just be happy with how things are.
get out of your shell. finally, the instruction to leave your natural living habitat and, again, contribute to our great imperial society.

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octobob@lemmy.ml ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Sounds like some defeatist bullshit. Playing games all day is no way to live.

Doing things is a way to be happy. I used to go out every week in my early 20’s, still do but not as constantly now that I’m in my 30’s. I love meeting people, making friends, falling in love, playing and seeing live music, working with my hands as an electrician, renovating my home, taking care of and loving my dog, traveling, exercising, biking. Hell I volunteered and planted trees with my city’s local government just because I was kinda bored the one summer. I’m engaged to the love of my life and my future and career is bright. I do all of this for my own fulfillment and for those that I love, the “contribute to society” stuff sounds like a 13 year old’s idea of the Joker. I don’t even have social media, unless you count lemmy I guess, so it’s not to “show off”

Style is more often than not just grooming yourself and looking presentable. Nobody is saying buy a t shirt every week.

“Never be happy with the situation” is also just a pessimistic viewpoint. If you put yourself in new and interesting situations, then you’ll be surprised how much fun or fulfillment or challenging mentally physically whatever they can be. If you don’t like it, then change it and don’t do it. Or don’t, and sit inside all day. It’s your life.

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stingpie@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Counter points:

I don’t have a counter point. This is just a matter of opinion.

Buy fancy clothes from a yard sale or something. I like to get old time formal wear because it just looks well put together.

You can go out and do things without spending money. Have a walk in the park, go to the library.

I don’t know why you associate challenging yourself with not being satisfied. I think challenging myself is fun. It has the “put in the work, reap the rewards” kind of structure. I draw as a hobby, so I mostly challenge myself by trying to draw in unfamiliar art styles.

This is just kinda sad. You’re aware that having friends isn’t imperialist, right? Friends are a part of every human culture, imperialist or not. Humans are social creatures, and we are very dependent on social interaction. Talking to others is the main way we compare our thoughts and perception to reality–we get a second opinion.

If you really feel that way, I’m sorry to hear that. It can be really hard to try and function ethically in the modern world, so you have to put in some effort to find ethical ways to do things. I hope you get to a point in your life where you feel good about your situation and your role in the world.

Have a nice day.
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- captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  What they’re describing sounds like depression imo
  
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captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Fair, I actually generally prefer a more minimalist approach, though I’ve found some art makes my home more inviting to myself and to guests. I prefer local art I pick up at community events, though making it yourself would be cool af

Nah, most of my clothes come from a thrift store or swap meets. It’s about understanding what looks good on you and aiming for that. Learning to alter your clothes would also help with this

There are non comsumptive things. Volunteer at food not bombs or a books to prisoners community. Get involved in your local leftist scene. Hit up a park you haven’t recently. Go for a hike.

If you aren’t happy with how you’re living your life yes. If you like where your life is and are comfortable with that having been how you lived it, see my first paragraph of my previous comment and ask yourself why you care what advice some lady on the internet gives

No, you lesrn to speak to people and make friends whether you want you contribute to our great imperial society or tear it down. Staying in all day alone isn’t a great act of rebellion it’s neutral sad.

If you stay at home all day, alone with bare walls and clothes that don’t express yourself or make you look good, never doing anything interesting or speaking to people, you finding friends and a partner as an adult are unlikely.
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Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
You should read some existentialist philosophy, man. L’Étranger seems like the book for you, my dude. Particularly, the bit about the guy and his dog.

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- gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  
  existentialist philosophy
  
  oh i love that. i’ve already read so much of it, it’s exactly my type :)
  
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  - Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Maybe it’s time for a closer read of your favorite works.
    
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