I think a similar way to say this is to always be trying new things and do self care. If you like a decorated house, decorate, but if you don’t, do a different form of self care.
For me, it’s more like:
- go hiking - I don’t enjoy the journey, but i like the accomplishment of having done it
- lift weights - again, I’m not looking to be big or whatever, but weight lifting is easy to measure progress
- try new hobbies - not just video games, but drawing (completely failed), game dev (mlderate success), carpentry, juggling, uncycling, etc
- eliminate clutter that doesn’t bring happiness and keep only stuff I value - I don’t like decorations, but I do like certain items than have sentimental value
Make your own list, and make sure to include things that challenge and stretch you, because there’s no joy like accomplishing something hard.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 22 hours ago
literally every single one of these things are things that i don’t like
octobob@lemmy.ml 21 hours ago
Sounds like some defeatist bullshit. Playing games all day is no way to live.
Doing things is a way to be happy. I used to go out every week in my early 20’s, still do but not as constantly now that I’m in my 30’s. I love meeting people, making friends, falling in love, playing and seeing live music, working with my hands as an electrician, renovating my home, taking care of and loving my dog, traveling, exercising, biking. Hell I volunteered and planted trees with my city’s local government just because I was kinda bored the one summer. I’m engaged to the love of my life and my future and career is bright. I do all of this for my own fulfillment and for those that I love, the “contribute to society” stuff sounds like a 13 year old’s idea of the Joker. I don’t even have social media, unless you count lemmy I guess, so it’s not to “show off”
Style is more often than not just grooming yourself and looking presentable. Nobody is saying buy a t shirt every week.
“Never be happy with the situation” is also just a pessimistic viewpoint. If you put yourself in new and interesting situations, then you’ll be surprised how much fun or fulfillment or challenging mentally physically whatever they can be. If you don’t like it, then change it and don’t do it. Or don’t, and sit inside all day. It’s your life.
stingpie@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
Counter points:
I don’t have a counter point. This is just a matter of opinion.
Buy fancy clothes from a yard sale or something. I like to get old time formal wear because it just looks well put together.
You can go out and do things without spending money. Have a walk in the park, go to the library.
I don’t know why you associate challenging yourself with not being satisfied. I think challenging myself is fun. It has the “put in the work, reap the rewards” kind of structure. I draw as a hobby, so I mostly challenge myself by trying to draw in unfamiliar art styles.
This is just kinda sad. You’re aware that having friends isn’t imperialist, right? Friends are a part of every human culture, imperialist or not. Humans are social creatures, and we are very dependent on social interaction. Talking to others is the main way we compare our thoughts and perception to reality–we get a second opinion.
If you really feel that way, I’m sorry to hear that. It can be really hard to try and function ethically in the modern world, so you have to put in some effort to find ethical ways to do things. I hope you get to a point in your life where you feel good about your situation and your role in the world.
Have a nice day.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
What they’re describing sounds like depression imo
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
If you stay at home all day, alone with bare walls and clothes that don’t express yourself or make you look good, never doing anything interesting or speaking to people, you finding friends and a partner as an adult are unlikely.
Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
You should read some existentialist philosophy, man. L’Étranger seems like the book for you, my dude. Particularly, the bit about the guy and his dog.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 16 hours ago
oh i love that. i’ve already read so much of it, it’s exactly my type :)
Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
Maybe it’s time for a closer read of your favorite works.