Comment on Excuse the fuck me?
red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 hours agoYeah, exactly. I don’t see this as black and white as it’s made out to be. Where’s the point in cancer or another serious disease ruining two lives? Sure, sometimes people leave for selfish reasons. But protecting yourself is not selfish, it’s essential for survival. If you stay and support a sick person, that makes you a good person. Leaving someone because you cannot handle dealing with the disease emotionally or financially doesn’t automatically make you a bad person.
Bo7a@lemmy.ca 13 hours ago
Unless you have made a conscious vow otherwise.
red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 hours ago
That whole “'til death do us part” is some ancient bullshit. People change, situations change. Sticking with a bad situation because you once said “in good times and bad times” even if it is destroying you is some toxic-ass bullshit.
Bo7a@lemmy.ca 10 hours ago
Once again a comment replying to something I didn’t fucking say.
Contrarian bullshit is so chic.
red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 40 minutes ago
Oh fuck off. I am not being contrarian. I am just too old to believe in absolutes. Things change, people change. That’s just life. And having seen multiple people die of cancer over the years, that shit is no fucking joke and will absolutely ruin the lives of everyone involved. If someone just cannot handle that, it’s OK to leave that awful situation. Yes, it does suck even more for the person who’s actually ill. But I really don’t see a point in ruining multiple lives because of one person’s illness. Again, if people want to step up and be there, that is amazing and laudable. But if you step away simply to protect yourself, you will probably feel bad and wish you could do more. But sometimes you just can’t. Once more: that’s simply how life is.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
excuse me but this is contrarian horseshit. as a connoisseur…