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PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• ickplant@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It’s more of a shitpost than a sentiment. My husband and I talk about other attractive people all the time.

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• DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Boomerisms

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• EmasXP@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  We all have different levels of insecurity. I think it’s common to not want to hurt the feelings of the ones we love

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• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Are people not allowed to find others attractive after they’re married or something?

  There’s a general taboo against oogling. But its often a question of finesse. Doing a loud wolf-whistle at someone as she passes you is bad form, and doubly so if your wife isn’t wolf-whistling with you.

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  • PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I guess I’m trying to understand the reasoning for the taboo. Insecurity?

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    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Also rudeness. Playing “hot or not” with every person that crosses your path is considered in poor taste. It objectifies and commodifies them, reducing them to visual spectacles in a way that can quickly become mean-spirited and oafish.

      Also, depending on who your oogling, it can get creepy. Fixating on a particular age range or certain ethnic features (even unintentionally) is problematic for a whole host of reasons.

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