Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard

jsomae@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

• inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I’m not. I’ve seen it happen many times to friends. Straight girls can make out drunk at a bar/party and that’s the end of it, but two men doing so are absolutely and irreversiblly gay.

  It’s just yet another facet of gender enforcement and cishet normalization. Heck during the first season of Love is Blind an engaged couple breaks up because he admitted to his fiance that he has slept with men before. Not that reality TV relationships are real relationships, but there are vast majority of women who see it as a deal breaker.

  Unless of course you’re just doubting anon talks to women at all. In which case, yeah… sus… 😒

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  • jsomae@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I assumed anon is a woman, based on the picture.

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• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  In my experience, gay men are much more poly-curious than straight women. And there’s definitely a lingering existential “what if my man’s gay and he leaves me for another dude?” dread that I’ve seen more than one straight woman grapple with, particularly if the guy they’re with is pushing 2+ on the Kinsey scale.

  Tag in the Reddit-style “Dump him, he’s not good for you!” social media vibe, and you’ll get women who end a relationship because they would rather do the breaking-up than be on the receiving end.

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  • ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    gay men are much more poly-curious than straight women

    I used to have a gay man cut my hair (back when I used to have hair lol). Casey would talk very loudly about his sexual activities and it was always amusing to see the looks the other (female) hairdressers in the shop gave him. One time he was telling me about fucking an old woman, saying “sure, I’ll stick my dick in whatever, why not?” This was especially amusing because it was right before prom night and the place was filled with high school girls getting their hair elaborately coiffed while their fading-flower mothers hovered nearby with shocked looks on their faces. This was in Louisiana, which is surprisingly a lot more tolerant of homosexuality than you might think (at least in some parts) - he was fired that day, which was a common occurrence for him. I think he worked out of five different salons during the time he cut my hair.

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  • daggermoon@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    “what if my man’s gay and he leaves me for another dude?”

    I hate stupid people. Like what if my “girlfriend is gay and leaves me for a woman?”, “what if my girlfriend is straight and leaves me for a different man?”, sounds like insecurity to me. Work on yourself and your insecurity and find someone who is loyal and commited to you. Their sexual orientation does not fucking matter and will not have any effect on weather or not they cheat on you if they do.

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  • krunklom@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Sounds like a problem solving itself. Being on the other end of toxic insecurity is fucked.

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