Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard

LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• bus_factor@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  They didn’t claim that. They said even progressive women will leave you, meaning they have that issue with all the usual suspects, but also progressive women.

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  • IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    doesn’t count as a true Scotsman fallacy if I assume they aren’t really progressive.

    but you can’t be progressive if you have an issue with queer people or anyone bending gender boundaries.

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    • bus_factor@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      There’s degrees to everything, though. There’s plenty of traits I think are perfectly okay for people to have, but that I’m still not looking for in a partner. So I guess I probably also fail your purity test.

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  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    But it feels odd to single them out rather than who would really perpetuate.

    You’re right, the difference is that I’m reading it in bad faith and you’re reading it in good faith.

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• SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Love seeing progressive people dismiss the experiences of men

  Keep up the bigoted work soldier

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  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Huh? I didn’t dismiss either OP’s or the other commenters’s experience.

    But I’m not going to jump to conclusions blindly at your say-so or he-said-she-said or your insults, because when you look at statistics: consistently, across a decade, across all age groups, women are far more supportive of LGBT folks, even the T in the UK (TERF Island).

    I know this is a popular go-to thought terminating cliche for “bothsidesbad” type people, but beyond empathizing, what do you expect me to do exactly?

    I am sorry to hear you had shitty experiences with progressive women. I had only good experiences with women period, even those on the older side, and I’m a trans woman in the UK. It’s your word against mine unless we have studies and data and statistics, and unless you can demonstrate me some to support an actual argument, this conversation is pointless.

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    • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      You have no self reflection abilities

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• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  IME of having dated mostly progressive women… they are the ones perpetuating it the most while shouting in public that they aren’t doing that.

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  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    That sucks, I’m sorry to hear that.

    Hopefully your experience is merely anecdotal. I’d need to have some numbers or a study before I change my mind personally though

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• IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  if they do that, they aren’t really “progressive”.

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