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Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• deacon@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I think you just described two things working almost exactly as designed.

  You should use block liberally to curate your feed.

  Similarly, communities should have whatever rules make sense for them. If that keeps the community small, that might be the desired outcome for them.

  I think blocking was the right call here.

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  • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    There’s only one side of this that is using things as designed, and that would be me blocking things I don’t want to engage with. If a community wants to cater to a very specific group of people, they should be using the tools of the platform that allow them to do so by being set to private snd creating a whitelist instead of leaving it public and expecting everyone to follow the honor system of not engaging if they are not part of the accepted group.

    There is no benefit to leaving it public and being private doesn’t make it invisible.

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    • deacon@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      In the very broadest sense I don’t disagree with you. Making a community private is a useful tool and can help to simplify strict entry guidelines.

      However, given that “Cater to a very specific group of people”, refers to basically half of earth’s population in this case, I do have some quibbles.

      I don’t have the data in front of me, but I bet that women represent something quite less than half the population of Lemmy. It doesn’t even stretch the imagination to suppose that they represent just a fraction of the user base.

      So this isn’t a niche interest or obscure sub-culture we’re talking about. This is an artificial minority population. Is the simplicity of going private worth the added obscurity and increased friction to what should be organic community growth?

      As it is, you had to see it, decide to engage with it, and then learn that it wasn’t meant for you, and you’d have just preferred to remain unaware it ever existed. Never mind that would also ensure most other People remain unaware it exists.

      Is it really such a hardship on you for the filter to be set a little wider for the good of that community?

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• Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  How are new women to find it if it never appears in All? Feel free to block/remove it, just as you would any niches that don’t interest you and clog up your feed. Or just scroll past, like I do for Linux and gaming and moe.

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  • BigBananaDealer@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    but linux doesnt tell you you cant comment here if you dont use linux

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    • zqps@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Imagine every public linux forum overrun by 90% Windows user,s and you might just begin to understand.

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    • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Agreed, it’s just a lot of paying attention to the instance names and scrolling past. Usually the post title is a clue as well, but occasionally something sounds like something else. I don’t want to block the whole term, because it might be a small part of some post I’d otherwise be interested in. In any case, I know better than to drop comments in a topic that’s outside my experience.

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  • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You invite them. The same as any other kind of private group.

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• Angelusz@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yeah, unfortunately I did the same after I got warned off for a perfectly fine interaction.

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  • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    That’s okay. I mean, if you want to open it up again and read it to get a perspective on how women speak when they’re in their own space, nobody minds. But if you don’t want it cropping up in your feed, that’s cool. Obviously the reason it shows up in All is so new women can find it. Being reminded not to comment is just that, a reminder of the rules, and not necessarily a criticism of the content. If women didn’t face so much denial of their voices it wouldn’t be necessary.

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I mean this very kindly but “i don’t think it’s appropriate” is never a good reason to dictate the actions of others.

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• Impassionata@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I didn’t want to see your comment, but that won’t stop me from complaining about having to see your comment anyway.

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• WillFord27@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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• JoshuaFalken@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Often find yourself inside many stores you find irrelevant when strolling around town? All those unlocked doors must be such temptation.

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  • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I don’t recall ever seen a sign on such a locked door that said “Open to the public; Come on in” only to walk in and then be shouted at for not beinf an employee.

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