Please report on how BFF goes! I just looked it up and am disappointed to be told I canât be friends with guys. This is dumb.
Comment on Discussion Thread đŚ Tuesday 8 July 2025
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Was meant to catch up with a friend at 3. Last night she changed it to 3:30 because a new update for a game sheâs playing is out. Whatever, thatâs fine. I tell her to text me when sheâs leaving so I can leave then. Sheâs fine with that.
I decided to leave earlier and get there at 3:30, because I have a jazz playlist I want to listen to. But it hits 3:30, and she still hasnât texted me saying sheâs left. She sends me a picture of her game asking which option I liked more. I asked her if sheâs left and she said no. She does live a 5 minute drive away from where weâre meeting, so I guess thatâs not too bad. She is apologising profusely. Now itâs been 15 minutes since we were supposed to meet, and she said she has to brush her teeth and wash her face. She is nocturnal because of her (undiagnosed but probable) gaming addiction.
Am I overreacting? I am pissed off even though sheâs going to be 20 minutes late, but it wasnât because of something like traffic or PTV issues. She could control it. Last week she also pissed me off because sheâs unemployed and using her dadâs money. She said, when buying food,
âItâs not my money. I donât care.â
I need new friends. I downloaded Bumble for Friends today. Hoping I can get a group of people together and make at least one friend from there. I need friends that donât trauma dump on me or are selfish.
Catfish@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I will!
I thought you can be friends with guys. Iâve seen some on there.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I tried it and it was basically a free hook up app for gay guys.
Catfish@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Sounds like Skout. Supposedly for friends but almost everyone just wanted to hook up and sell drugs.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Oh no. I think the experience is different for girls as guys a few were there looking for friends. I have a couple of acquaintances who met their close friends from there.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Iâve had friends like that. They alleviate loneliness in the here and now, but it doesnât pay off down the track.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Yeah absolutely.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
âItâs not my money. I donât care.â
omg, this is like the opposite of what an average person would think and say
does she earn her keep at home or is she a princess?
because a lot of people, like me, donât work but work their butt off at home to earn their keep
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Yep she helps her dad out with his business.
We ended up playing video games, and one of them I am especially bad at. She enjoys spending time with me just hanging out, but if she plays with someone who has a lower skill level, it works out better for her.
Duenan@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Iâd be pissed as well.
Excuses excuses excuses, I canât really be ok with that
Her attitude is basically if itâs her skin or responsibility then she can shrug it off and do whatever she wants.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
FYI reddit.com/âŚ/this_creepy_man_wont_give_upkeeps_maâŚ
Be careful as you donât know who youâre meeting. Also still be careful as even if the person is a girl looking for friends, because thereâs a reason some of them donât have any.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Cheers. That is true.
I think a lot of the time, at my age, people fall out with their friends or just become more isolated, as everyone goes their separate ways after studying. I know a couple of people who met some of their closest friends from there and theyâve just gone overseas together. But I will be cautious.
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
What are your hobbies? Can you find hobby groups and then friends within that?
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
My hobbies tend to be more solitary and at a beginner level. Iâm thinking of joining a run club once I get better at running. Also want to try DnD.
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
DnD is a great place to make friends. Try to find a group of your peers. Many Uniâs have role playing clubs as well as a bunch of options around town.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I shall look into it, thanks!
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
But not actually doing anything about fixing her behaviour? Thatâs crappy, you deserve better than that. Even if you had waited for her to text to, sheâs still leaving you waiting when agreed on a time and then chose to game. And the rub salt in the wound by sending you a picture of said game.
Sorry, that makes me very angry on your behalf. You are not overreacting, she is not respecting you.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Next time I will wait for that text before leaving, but the fact that she sent a time.