Comment on Anon's best friend is a repper
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
I can confidently say that I am the most basic bitch straight cis white male with no strong desire to change any of that.
But also, we only get one body. It certainly isn’t unusually to be curious how other people live. I think there’s a preprogrammed “How dare you want to change anything!” naturalist attitude. And that discourages anyone from even thinking about the possibility of change.
I think if there was no stigma, you’d definitely see far more of the population coded as Trans, Fluid, or some other variant. I think you’d see more people who are simply gender non-conforming.
I think part of what upsets the Boomer/X generation is the fact that they never got a chance to choose. And as Millennials/Zs/As are umshackled, I’m hoping the resentment fades.
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 19 hours ago
They’re not though. They’re very rigidly stuck inside little Identity boxes anyway. You’re automatically “trans coded” if you’re a guy but like dresses, looking pretty and shaving. There’s no reason to make those feminine traits though. Real liberation means we ditch the whole thing.
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 18 hours ago
Your comment shows either a very limited knowledge of queer identities or potentially large regional differences in the younger gens, because agender, bigender, and gender nonconforming people make up more of younger gens than they do older gens. So many young men are getting into makeup, nail polish, and wearing dresses and skirts. Way more than the older gens.
I’m a gender abolitionist, but your comment is either misguided or outright false.
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9380989/
“Boomers+ and Generation X groups were more likely to identify as trans women compared to the younger generational cohorts, who were more varied in their identities.”
curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 hours ago
I read their comment as…
And
Are not the same. There may be quite a bit more exploration of gender identity today, but many, many, many are still in areas or situations where such exploration would be dangerous.
As in, not unshackled, just a bit more free for some.
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 11 hours ago
They said: “They’re very rigidly stuck inside little Identity boxes anyway. You’re automatically “trans coded” if you’re a guy but like dresses, looking pretty and shaving.”
That stuck out to me as some of the same trans fear mongering that the right wing uses when they say “tomgirls are a thing. You don’t have to be trans”.
Im not saying they are right wing, but the idea that doing something gender nonconforming signals that you’re trans is not correct and in my experience not a widely popular belief among young people. It seems to me like they were saying people are too quick to call people trans and that’s just not the case. If that wasn’t their point, I’m not sure what they meant by suggesting that someone is “automatically trans coded”.
I agree that there are still spaces where it’s not safe, but I don’t see that argument being made in the comment.
lka1988@sh.itjust.works 12 hours ago
I would argue that the Scottish kilt is one of the manliest items of clothing to exist. Its “gender-normative” equivalent is essentially a skirt.