Comment on Anon's split personality

BreakerSwitch@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

• Zenith@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Yeah reading this as a woman is low key terrifying like… if you hate me why tf do you want to fuck me? The idea a person could be so wildly two faced whole also desperately trying to interact with me in my most vulnerable state is so scary, things like this is why women choose the bear

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  • Schadrach@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    if you hate me why tf do you want to fuck me?

    Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.

    But then my wife acts shocked that a bunch of women she works with talk like they don’t even like their husbands. All I can think is why marry them then?

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    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.

      I’ve been guilty of that and I’ve definitely felt that “ok, I came, I’d rather be alone now.” thing described in the post. Regular sex goes a long way in keeping me interested and the most toxic women I’ve been with have always been the best at it. There are women in my life who I like spending time with but that kind of kills my desire to have sex with them. It’s like subconsciously I’m thinking “why would I want to ruin this by bringing sex into it?” or maybe it feels like I’m degrading them if I think about them sexually or I don’t want to take advantage of them. I’m not really sure what’s going on with me there. I mostly just don’t date these days because I have my single life figured out pretty well and bringing someone else into it is always so disruptive and I really don’t get enough out of it to be worth the stress.

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      • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        There’s a name for that: Madonna-whore complex. Might help find resources to help deal with that. Best of luck; it sounds like a hellish experience.

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    • Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Often times their husbands were different before their marriage, and probably for a while afterwards, then they slowly got shittier, and shittier

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      • SL3wvmnas@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        So… more deceit? I’ve had uhmmm enough contact with all sexes in my time, and found “a relationship is a means to an end” type behavior in too many of my fellow humans. Also when they will not stop sliding into shittier and shittier behavior it usually means they were shitty from the start, but their mask is slipping.

        Still amazes me, the many, many people seeing felationships as purely transactional.

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  • QuoVadisHomines@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I imagine sexism like this morphs into DV given time and opportunity

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  • starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Yeah it’s definitely testosterone :/ just pure monkey brain neuron activated, there’s not really any thoughts besides “I am so unbelievably in love with them” until you’re snapped back to reality…

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