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• krashmo@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I think it’s more about your expectation from interactions with strangers. I will tolerate a ton of weather talk from my wife but if the guy taking my order at 5 Guys tries the same thing it’s not going to be as well received.

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  • tired_n_bored@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Why? I like when strangers try to talk to me honestly

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    • krashmo@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think I like it more than most but not just to hear words out loud. If you have a story about the weather impacting your day that’s much more interesting than just commenting on it in general.

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      • iii@mander.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        It’s raining in south latvia btw

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• lunarul@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  we should go do X

  we should stay in and watch a movie and snuggle

  That’s not small talk, that’s planning what to do today. You can open the same conversation with “hey, what do you want to do today?”

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  • Jimmycakes@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    And how will you plan anything if you don’t know the weather genius???

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  • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Most people who “hate small talk” in posts like this have either very specific ideas in their mind of what it means, such as annoying coworkers who talk about quilting or baseball loudly in the next cubicle, or are deeply sour, lonely, cynical shits who think they’re god’s gift to intellectualism and have never had a girlfriend in their life.

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• dragonfucker@lemmy.nz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  the point of small talk is to open avenues of conversation

  If you’re married to someone, all avenues of conversation should be open the minute you’ve both said hi. If you need to talk about the weather before you decide what to get for dinner, with your spouse, then your marriage is a failure.

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• ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  People will also say something stupid about the weather or news or whatever just because they want to express to you that they’re friendly and open to converse. Ignoring “small talk” from a stranger is like actively rejecting someone’s desire to connect.

  Which is fine, if you’re as antisocial and spiteful against “casual life” like everyone in this post is pretending to be and you love it and you’re happy, that’s great. Say “just put it in the bag” and get out of there.

  The problem is most of these people who act like people talking about “last night’s game” are NPC’s in the Matrix and they would NEVER stoop to the level of talking about sports or weather… are the same people who will race home to post their manifestos about how lonely they are and how society is crumbling and how they wish they lived somewhere walkable with community and how hard dating is.

  Our cognitive dissonance as a species is maxing out.

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