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• systemglitch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  No, it is a very unhealthy community that lies to outsiders trying to make it sound like the paradise it will never be.

  There are so many layers to always have to peel with poly groups.

  They are almost always young and it never lasts.

  Just do yourself a favour and avoid those thought virus’.

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  • misterdoctor@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I have zero interest in becoming poly, exploring the idea, etc. it doesn’t appeal to me at all. But from a sociological standpoint, it’s very interesting to me personally to consider the dynamics of those relationships and to understand how they can vary from person to person, group to group.

    I don’t have any experience with that community but I promise you that painting with a broad brush like you’re doing is wrong. You don’t know this individual. You’re assuming the worst without ever engaging in conversation with them personally. Unless you do know this person in which case I apologize.

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    • systemglitch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I go with normal expectations, and have enough experience to know, this is a good generality.

      On an individual level this can change, but the main pattern persists outside of an individual basis

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  • bassomitron@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    It can be unhealthy. But, it truly depends on the people and their reasons for doing it. You can’t just blanket apply statements to people.

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    • systemglitch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      But you can to groups of people

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  • JandroDelSol@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    a lot of monogamous relationships don’t last either, buddy

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    • systemglitch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Very true, but also not relevant

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  • vapeloki@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    This comment brought me to: yes, there should be an AMA!

    Srsly, polyamorous relationships are a complex beast. And no, they are not better or worse then other relationship models. They are just different.

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    • systemglitch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Lol they are definitely worse for mental health overall.

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      • vapeloki@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Says who? Do you have some quantifiable proof, studies, or is this just the same old " i don’t like it, baaaaaaad " bullshit?

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• vapeloki@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I am open to such an AMA. Any place on lemmy where this would work?

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  • misterdoctor@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    This is the one I’m most familiar with: lemmy.ca/c/askmeanything

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