Comment on Anon is worried about men

• Critical_Thinker@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  So walk away from them, or handle it gracefully somehow. It’s the same as trying to make a friend. Doesn’t everyone make friends from time to time?

  Interest + effort = relationship of any kind. Find the shared interest, make a little bit of effort… or don’t and the math doesn’t work. If romance doesn’t come, you’ve made a friend.

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  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Enough negative experiences reinforce and define behavior.

    This is true for any being with a nervous system.

    IDK why you think every individual magically changing is something realistic.

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    • Critical_Thinker@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      If every individual you approach gives you a lecture you might want to check out not being around those people. Try something different.

      I’ve never, ever gotten a lecture. I’ve been married for about four years, but before the pandemic I picked up 4 women in a year that led to relationships of months before I ended them when I realized there wasn’t enough there to keep me interested. Don’t get me wrong, i’ve been dumped plenty and rejected plenty. I just learned to move on from the rejection.

      It’s like job hunting, it’s a numbers game and every time you try you have a chance. Every time you don’t try nothing changes.

      I just can’t imagine being lectured just by approaching someone and saying hi, asking them a question that is pertinent to the scenario, and giving them a chance to speak.

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      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        You haven’t tried dating GenZ women then.

        They specifically tell you not to approach women in public.

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    • UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Enough negative experiences reinforce and define behavior.

      Unless you don’t let them.

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    • Guns0rWeD13@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      it’s just that you’re fragile and a disgrace. it’s revolting. the fascists are taking over. grow some confidence. we need heroes, not insecure little boys. you know what will get you laid real quick? bashin the fash.

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      • Aqarius@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Yes, fragility is disgracefvll veakness. To defeat the enemy ze men mvst be strong, zey mvst be heroes, zey must have vill to seize vhat zey vant. It vill to pover zat vill tvrn little boys into strong men. Zis is antifascism.

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• UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  and you get another lecture for saying hi

  I’ve never ever had that happen. And I’m old enough to have fucked your grandma when she was still young and cute.

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  • Ookami38@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    My personal experience trunpa your personal experience!

    This is the problem. We’re all so keen to talk, and not to listen. You’re old enough to have fucked dude’s Grandma? Congratulations you lived in a different world.

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    • UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Congratulations you lived in a different world.

      And I’m still in this world. Dude I still date. I’m only in my 50’s. I’m not even as old as brad pitt or Tom cruise.

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