So yeah, my experience with women basically is from age 17 to 24.
You don’t have much experience to be in this conversation. I’m legit happy you clicked with someone at that age, and seem well settled! But that’s unusual, and again, that’s not much of a resume.
Your hobby can be whatever. They want you, not your hobby, not your grooming. If you’re fit and you can make her laugh, that’s all you need.
Well… kinda. Not sure why you keep on about grooming not being important. Weird to me. But yes, be fit and make her laugh, good deal! But no, there’s a bit more to attraction in most cases. Something here seems a bit shallow.
But hell, look at me and my wife. We’re wildly physically attracted to each other. Her smell is like crack to me, and I’ve done my time with actual crack. We don’t have much in common intellectually but we’ve found some hobbies and interests alike and shared unfamiliar hobbies and interests. In short, we’ve learned from one another, and that’s important to me, and seems to be important to all the women I’ve been with. They always say I’m “interesting”, even if they have, uh, other things to say.
We could probably learn a thing or two talking this out.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
I mean sure, different people have different preferences when it comes to grooming. My point is more along the lines of: It doesn’t matter how funny you are if you stink and your hair is greasy.
Wanpieserino@lemm.ee 1 week ago
Come on bruv, taking a shower takes 10 minutes a day.
I thought you meant like fine shaving your facial hair, making sure your hair length, fade, etc is always on point. Wearing suit or expensive clothing. Wearing perfume.
That’s grooming.
Taking a shower and brushing your teeth is the most basic thing
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 1 day ago
I know, right? And even then, I had a friend who would rather get *into a fist fight than have his hair washed because “I takes 30 minutes to fully dry”.
I think he has brushed his teeth maybe like 3-4 times tops in his adult life and half of those, I paid him to brush his teeth. Of course he has multiple health issues because of it. It was literally like he would rather die than brush his teeth.
All that, and he still wanted a girlfriend and thought it would magically fix all of his problems.
So there is my rant, and I hope you are having a good day, and I hope you wish for me the same.
Ashenlux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
Now you see how fucking low the standards are for men. And yet there are still plenty of men that can’t seem to get it.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
Exactly my dude it’s basic, I find it crazy that it’s not more common.
Fluke@lemm.ee 1 week ago
And yet, take a look in any Games Workshop and you’re quite likely to find people who will happily go weeks without a shower despite sweating like a pig just hauling their immense bulk across the room for another 2 litre bottle of coke or pepsi.
The nearest store to me for example had to put a fucking sign in the window warning that staff will remove any such sources of offensive body odour from the premises and issue bans on repeat offenses.
I mean, what the fuck?!
It’s not the ladies’ fault they find such utter lack of basic hygiene repulsive, despite what the Taint brothers and their ilk say, but it’s the same basic bitch lie every right wing cockbite sells.
“It’s not your fault or mine that your life is a bin fire, it’s insert target group here’s fault. Here, do what I tell you and it’ll get better.”
All downhill from believing that “pretty little lie”. There is currently a rising tide of people caught up in the lie the world over, and they’re unwilling to admit they were had. If history is any teacher, it’s got to get waaaay worse before the wind shifts.