I don’t understand why you’re so beholden to him.
If you’ve had a falling out with him I wouldn’t be paying him a visit to see him or his family let alone having a family meal with him.
Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: Sunday, 9 February 2025
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Thanks to all for the words of support yesterday.
Ended up cooking dinner for everyone, bro had a go (so I had a go back naturally), so left mine in the fridge and went to the beach lol.
Highlight was getting dumped by a wave and doing my shoulder hitting the seabed. Nothing like a few endorphins followed by some wine on an empty beach. It was actually very calming heh.
Hottest take from the night was that I need to get vaccinated (whooping etc.) if I / p’s want to see his baby due in May. Problem is I’m up to date and he was/is anti-covid / flu vax. Basically threatening the parents that if I’m not vaxxed (not them) they won’t be seeing their future grandkid. Fucking wild. Making me out to be a risk to their unborn kiddo is fucked and classic acute NPD manipulation.
Anyway hopefully the cunt leaves soon.
Duenan@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 months ago
It’s a tricky one. Family and all that. But yea I won’t be rushing over to theirs for dins.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Let me get this straight… you’re vaxxed but they’re saying you’re not? He’s not making sense.
Anyway I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this shitshow. And that your dad keeps cornering you into dealing with him/them. The ultimatums and emotional blackmail are out of line and if it wasn’t for your mum I’d suggest distancing yourself for some peace
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Yea you’re spot on, it is absolutely emotional blackmail / unreasonable ultimatums. There’s no solution to this.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Their hold over you is your vulnerable mum.
They’ve got you going there, tolerating bro, and doing cooking labour in concern for her wellbeing. If she had reliable care from another source you would have more of a choice to back out of the situation.
Your dad could deal with bro and bro could have fun doing the cooking for him
indisin@aussie.zone 2 months ago
That sounds pretty awful mate.
I just wanted to say that I’m NC with my brother, he’s blocked on everything and has zero way to contact me or find me. I might get a message from a relative if he dies, but they all know the NC and understand. Sometimes you just need to look after yourself.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 months ago
I’m sorry to hear that. They say blood is thicker but if they’re an arsehole then that’s that.
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Well done you on taking the high road and also for looking after yourself (hope the shoulder‘s ok). I’ve got some idea of how difficult these things can be to deal with (it’s SIL for me)
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 2 months ago
I am not at all attempting to undercut your experience here (your bro is being a dick 100%). Wanted to clarify that whopping cough is a different vax to standard flus. I didn’t know that until I needed to go get one to see a mate’s bubba.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 months ago
I think it was just an attempt by bro to assert himself in front of p’s. Happened many times before. It makes no difference here as all the fam has had their boosters recently (funnily enough except for bro, had to leave the room when I heard that).