Comment on What is "forming questions in an affirmative voice?"
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The difference would be “How do you think we can prevent this in the future?” Vs “What the fuck were you thinking?!?”
Comment on What is "forming questions in an affirmative voice?"
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The difference would be “How do you think we can prevent this in the future?” Vs “What the fuck were you thinking?!?”
lurch@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Honestly, I know what the intention was, but the first makes me feel manipulated and angry right away, as it implies I want to prevent anything and that there is a future. It’s so unnatural and loaded.
BassTurd@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think this example is used in the context that something preventable happened. You’re more likely to get a better response if asking in the former than the latter.
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The first is problem solving, the second is blaming.
The first is phrased in a way that is condescending for an adult.
BassTurd@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I didn’t think I agree that it’s condescending. To me it’s just your cause analysis. If I had people reporting to me, and someone fucked up, I would want to know how we’re going to prevent it from happening again. To me it’s just cutting to the chase and problem solving.
callouscomic@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
That sounds like more of a personal hangup than standard fact for anyone.