lady_maria
@lady_maria@lemmy.world
- Comment on This world is cruel… 2 days ago:
Well, firstly, there’s the artistry of it. Creativity can be very sexy; it’s a kind of intelligence, after all. Hence writing, cooking, painting, ect. also being on the list. Not to mention, wood is a beautiful medium overall… and it smells nice when freshley cut.
Secondly, it’s attractive to be good with your hands. Not just because of the obvious, but because it’s genuinely admirable. It’s a show of competence (or at least one kind of competence) and requires one to be hard-working, dedicated, and persevering. All pretty universally attractive traits.
A carpenter’s hands may be rough and scarred, but they’re rough and scarred because they’ve literally crafted furniture/boats/houses/whatever. That in itself is pretty attractive to me.
Also do you find power tools or hand tools more attractive?
Personally, hand tools, because they require one to use more of their own power, if that makes sense. Plus, power tools are a little too dangerous for me to see them in a sexy context lol. Frankly, the tools themselves don’t really do much for me.
- Comment on Playing this on Halloween 1 month ago:
OOOOoOOOOOOoooo running into literally anyone from high school
OOOOoOOOOOOoooo being stuck in an unwanted conversation with a talkative stranger or distant relative
OOOOoOOOOOOoooo getting invited to a pyramid scheme party by a close friend
OOOOoOOOOOOoooo hearing an unexpected knock at the door
- Comment on Never forget. 1 month ago:
For just 30 minutes, no less???
- Comment on Preference 1 month ago:
The bottles in the US also have safety seals for the same reason
- Comment on Why I Haven't Seen Any Trump Supporters In Fediverse (Lemmy and Mastodon)? 2 months ago:
I think a lot of the people on Lemmy came from Reddit when the whole API thing happened. It was pretty much a boycott. I assume most of the people who cared enough about that to leave were mostly left-leaning.
That’s why I’m here, at least.
- Comment on How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy? 2 months ago:
We got even plus sized manikins in stores, wow.
you do know that’s because plus-sized clothing exists too, right? Do you expect stores to just not display their clothes simpy because they’re for fat people, or…?
But I dare you to name a single character from a show or movie that is skinny (not jacked skinny, but skinny skinny) that isn’t a crackhead junkie, some psycho or a basement dweller with his eyes glued to a screen?
Victor, from Arcane; Ben Wyatt, from Parks and Recreation; Gareth Keenan, from The Office (UK); Ken Cosgrove from Mad Men. I’m sure there are many more, but that’s just who I could think of off the top of my head.
I absolutely agree that there should be better representation of men’s (and women’s, imo) body types, including skinny men. But you’re really overestimating the quantity and quality of decent representation of fat women in roles that don’t rely on steroetypes. By that, I mean: isn’t unhinged/shrill/creepy/portrayed as gross or undesirable because she’s fat (and sometimes old)/there solely and shallowly as “the funny fat woman”. The majority of roles played by women, especially prominent ones, are still played by thin women.
Fat female characters are relatable and important to have because—whether you like it or not—fat women exist in real life. One simply existing in media does not inherently come with a statement condoning any particular lifestyle as you seem to be implying.
I know one, DJ Qualms, who’s arguably most famous role is a disabled person. Great.
…and? That’s a bad thing to you?
- Comment on I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do? 2 months ago:
it feels like colleagues talk bad about me.
What makes you say that? It’s pretty likely that’s just your anxiety talking.
I’m not exactly the most social—or even socially competent—person, but I know friends are important to have, especially if you don’t have family you can lean on. Friends can balance you out and provide alternate perspectives when you need them, and we all need them sometimes.
Also, I’m pretty sure having (good) friends is beneficial for your mental health. Having no friends can be detrimental to it.
Regardless of what you decide, I suggest putting yourself out there. Start slowly, and ask people about themselves. It can very difficult and stressful at first, but it does get easier over time.
It might be a good idea to make a pros/cons list for staying/getting a job; I’m sure there are other important factors to consider aside from the social climate.
- Comment on Out of curiosity if a woman is in control of her own body. If the SCOTUS did not reverse Roe than why can't a woman in control become a prostitue? 2 months ago:
Maybe it wasn’t an intentional attempt at a gotcha, but regardless, your question is predicated on a false equivalence.
- Comment on Breaking the news 6 months ago:
Honestly, I’d respond positively. Small talk is exhausting
- Comment on MFW I'm cutting back on groceries (yet again) so that a line goes up somewhere 7 months ago:
I love Aldi, but why does every location in my city seem to have such a lackluster selection of frozen veggies in comparison to other grocery stores??? It’s been this way for years.
I just want to have the option to buy the big bags of broccoli/stir fry veggies/ect. that have enough for more than one meal, not the little steamable ones that seem to be more expensive and probably waste more plastic.
- Comment on Want to lose weight? Poverty can help! 7 months ago:
TIL that merely mentioning the struggles and limitations that disabled people face—as a disabled person—within a seemingly cordial discussion about peoples’ access and ability to cook healthy meals means I’m literally ATTACKING the point of the person I’m replying to.
- Comment on Want to lose weight? Poverty can help! 7 months ago:
The fact that I had several points (in a single comment, mind you) does not mean that they keep changing. I suggest you revisit what moving goalposts actually means.
It’s been my experience that it takes less time and money to make a healthy meal at home. I don’t know why that’s a problem to you.
That’s been my experience, too. Like I’ve already said, I frequently cook cheap, healthy meals at home. I rarely eat fast food.
But my original points aren’t centered around my—or your—personal experience; we’re not the only two people who exist. Everyone has varying degrees of resources and ability.
- Comment on Want to lose weight? Poverty can help! 7 months ago:
Gee, straw man, you somehow wrote am entire paragraph while ignoring literally all of my points 👍
- Comment on Does the Dog Die? - A website for filtering movies by triggers 7 months ago:
Nice. Thank you so much for sharing!
- Comment on Want to lose weight? Poverty can help! 7 months ago:
It takes much more effort to make a healthy well-rounded meal than just scrambling up “a few eggs”. I’m happy you have enough time, energy, and physical ability to spend an hour making dinner, but a lot of people don’t.
Some have multiple jobs, kids, disabilities, ect. Others live in food deserts where it’s impossible—or at least very difficult—to find cheap, healthy food. Not to mention the people who were never taught how to cook, and would have to spend even more time, energy, (and very possibly wasted food) on learning how.
This is coming from someone who can and does cook cheap, healthy meals all of the time.
- Comment on What characterizes feminine strength? 7 months ago:
Assume that a woman isn’t just a man with different bits.
Emotional intelligence, empathy, and maturity; knowing when it is more beneficial to be gentle or to just observe/remain quiet; understanding how to take advantage of others’ gender-based assumptions/underestimation; and a deep solidarity with other women.
- Comment on When will the floss stop hurting 7 months ago:
Great advice. I’ve been using flossers lately because of a broken shoulder, and I can definitely tell that the quality of my flossing is lower than it is with regular floss. It’s also harder to be gentle.
- Comment on "I wish you well in your future endeavors" 8 months ago:
…why? The term AAVE has been widely used for a while, including by Black Americans.
- Comment on Someone call the PETA folk 8 months ago:
And Rust???
- Comment on back to the drawing board 8 months ago:
It’d be unethical to gatekeep such important information.
- Comment on This is $87 worth of shopping. Please feel free to use the space below to critique my purchases 8 months ago:
When you could just as easily eat NOTHING and have roughly the same nutritional value
I’m no nutritionist, but that seems incorrect based on my cursory Google search. lol
I actually like canned green beans slightly more than fresh or frozen. It has something to do with the texture, but idk what exactly. Though imo most veggies are definitely better fresh, for some reason I really enjoy canned peas too (I know I’m a weirdo).
- Comment on octopus stinkhorn 8 months ago:
Disturbing! I love it.
- Comment on Very few people realise how environmentally devastating this game is. 1 year ago:
Your anecdotal evidence says a lot more about the kind of people you surround yourself with than anything else. 60% of people in the US are still living paycheck to paycheck; many don’t have the time or the money for even the cheaper entry fees, especially when you consider having to buy/rent clubs.
Plus… why would an organization like the NGF downplay the number of golfers when their goal is literally to research and promote golfing?
- Comment on Very few people realise how environmentally devastating this game is. 1 year ago:
its most peoples thing they do to fuck off from lifes bullshit.
No… not most.
According to the National Golf Foundation, 41.1 million Americans played golf – BOTH on-course and off-course – in 2022.
This record-setting total includes 25.6 million people who played on a golf course and another 15.5 million who participated exclusively in off-course golf activities at places like driving ranges, indoor golf simulators, or golf entertainment venues like Topgolf and Drive Shack.
So only about 8%… or 12%, if you include those who participate in “off-course golf activities” alone.
- Comment on Bernie Sanders Champions 32-Hour Work Week With No Loss in Pay 1 year ago:
“Have to”? That’s obviously more than up for debate, especially considering the massive protests in France.
God forbid they consider increasing taxes for the rich instead.