BenVimes

@BenVimes@lemmy.ca

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think so too. The doctors didn’t even mention the possibility when my son was born, and if we had wanted it we would have had to specifically ask.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It was very common in Canada too. My parents decided to break the cycle with me, but I was the only uncircumcised guy in the locker room growing up in the 90s.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are dating apps a fraud since the beginning?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I met my partner through a dating site. In the two years prior to that, I had used the site to meet over two dozen other women, which led to no long-term relationships but did result in a few short flings.

  I can say that what helped me was expectation management. This was actually my second time using a dating site, and the first time around I was super picky, looking for “green flags.” Correspondingly, I messaged very few women, and met even fewer (four in two years). The second time, I realized that someone having a sparse profile didn’t mean they were a boring or lazy person. Sometimes it does, but other times it just means they aren’t very good at writing about themselves.

  I’ll also say there’s only so much the metrics of dating sites can tell you about someone and your compatibility with them. There’s a level of response bias to the questionnaires on these sites, i.e. people answer the questions based on what they think a potential partner might like, not their genuine beliefs and preferences. You’ll never discover your actual compatibility with someone unless you talk to them, so I took the approach of, “unless there are explicit deal breakers in your profile, I’ll ask you on a date and we’ll see how things go.”

  There’s also the expectation management for the frequency of matches, responses to messages, dates, and beyond. Dating apps aren’t magic machines that will get you hooked up in hours. They take work, and you’ll see a lot of rejection (most of it just utter silence). There can be long dry spells. Sometimes you’ll need to take a break because you’ve literally messaged everyone on the site and you need to wait for more members. And sometimes, they just won’t work for some people. That sounds harsh, but it’s true. Success for many of these sites and apps is highly dependent on one’s physical attractiveness, and some people simply did not win the genetic lottery.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Baldur’s Gate 3 director says he thought the game would be too short because of all the cut content | VGC⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Furthermore, there is an option to destroy the special “gift” if you can resist accepting it. However, alll you get for doing so is a few brief lines from the Emperor. Your companions don’t seem to notice, and there isn’t even an quest log update.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Final Fantasy 1-6 Pixel Remaster games 20% off through this weekend⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  As I said in another topic, this is the only way to play FF3 in its original form (or at least close to it) and in a language other than Japanese, outside of emulation. The DS remake is fine, but it is definitely a different experience.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm terrified of the Netherlands now⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m 188cm (6’2") and grew up in a fairly insular community of Dutch people and their descendants. I thought I was average height until I left that bubble went to university.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon prepares for a flood⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  He does seem to have half-assed it. Maybe they searched something like, “who built the ark in the Bible” and ended up on the page for the Ark of the Covenant by mistake.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Legend says he’s still down there⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The hardest part of the Water Temple is that one of the keys is hidden way better than the others, and if you start opening doors in the wrong direction you will run out of keys without it. Combine that with the clunkiness of swapping to/from the Iron Boots and raising/lowering the water level, and the place quickly grew tedious and frustrating.

  The 3DS remake added an extra camera sweep and some decor highlighting the hidden passage where that key is found.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How Greed Ruined Gaming⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, there’s the fact that outrage seems to drive more activity than other types of content. YouTube sees it as a more profitable option to advertise a Very Angry Gamer™ to you, even if you aren’t interested. I guess they assume that you’ll find something to watch anyhow, but if they will profit even more of they can hook you into the outrage machine.

  Then there’s my personal hypothesis that in order to enable this, YouTube’s algorithm weights your demographics, subscriptions, and viewing history much more heavily than your manual inputs.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A universal experience⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My version of this story happened in the gymnasium. My class, along with the students from three other classes, were all formed up as a choir and had just wrapped up practicing a song for the school’s Christmas play. One kid let loose, and the whole assembly made a very hasty (and disorderly) retreat, leaving the poor guy standing in a puddle of his own vomit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We need another rebellion⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Apparently I was like this, due to Ringo Starr playing Mr. Conductor on Shining Time Station.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Escapist murica-fires Editor-in-Chief - loses Yahtzee Croshaw and entire video team in hours⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, should have died years ago the last thing they unceremoniously dumped talent over apparently ideological reasons, but they survived.

  Granted, this time is different because now they are losing their primary breadwinner. They plodded along before because ZP still brought in people. This wound may actually be fatal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sabotage Studio initially projected sales of 250,000 copies of Sea of Stars in the first year. They hit that target within just a week.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I seem to remember them being surprised by the success of Bravely Default, not expecting a deliberately old-school RPG to appeal to modern audiences.

  The cynical part of me believes this is performative on their part - they know a game like that will be popular, but it won’t be the most popular thing ever and they won’t make all the money. So, they try to push bigger games that are more easily monetized in hopes that people will just forget their own preferences.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This wasn't meant to happen!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  My personal pet peeve is when they play an ad before giving you the menu options.

  First, wait thirty seconds for them to tell me how great their mobile app is. Then listen to the options, pick one, find out I picked the wrong one, and have to go back up one level. Now I have to listen to the ad again before I can hear the options.

  I don’t care how proud you are of your app, I wouldn’t be calling you if I could solve my problem with it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Donald Glover and Brother Stephen Glover to Write ‘Lando’ Series⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Despite other flaws, the biggest (or maybe second biggest) issue I had with Solo was Lando’s backstory.

  See, I grew up reading some very old, very obscure EU books about Lando. In that series Lando was an expert card player but a poor pilot, and a lot is made of how he won the Millennium Falcon in a game of Sabacc but has no idea how to fly it. The movie reversed this, making him a card cheat.

  I’m probably they only person in the world who cares.

  But maybe new series, if it ever comes out, will be able Lando and his adventures with Vuffi Raa?