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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I disagree. I want my partner to respect my feelings, and care about not hurting my feelings, just as i respect their feelings and care about not hurting them

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m getting lost in the food analogy sorry, would you be willing to try and explain in a different manner?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t get what you’re trying to say

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t agree with your twist of my analogy. I expect you to be honest about a meal you serve if you know i care about its contents, just i expect that you are honest about any other thing you know i find important. IMO thats the core of respect, and respect in a relationship is a huge thing for me.

  So it might seem inherently irrational to you, i just dont get why that matters at all. Again, in my view, how the person i care about, feel about cabout a particular thing that’s important to them, supersedes how i personally feel about it, because i care about - and respect - the PERSON, not the thing in question.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That i don’t get at all. I really don’t think it’s too much to expect honesty from your significant other. In my world, that’s about the one person where you owe absolute honesty, all other relations yeah lying ain’t THAT big a deal.

  Lying to yourself (breaking a diet) i agree is a victimless crime, but lying to others isn’t, as that is at the expense of the person being deceived. Lying to a random ass person is of course much less a deal than lying to your significant other, and in both situations it’s of course also dependant on the thing being lied about. A vegetarian would be very mad about being told a lie that the meal they were being served is vegetarian if it actually contained meat, and rightfully so imo.

  In i think that might be getting to the core of it. It might not be a big deal to you, and that’s of course totally okay and your right and just as natural as any other proposition, BUT, failing to recognize that this might be important to the person, and then proceed to lie about that thing just because you yourself don’t think it’s that big a deal, is not okay in my book.

  For me, it’s about respecting the internal worldview of the other person, and recognizing that it is just as important as my own. If something is a deal breaker for my partner, i don’t give a rats ass how important I think it is, what’s important is respecting that my partner cares a great deal about it. And if my partner cannot show the same towards me, that’s not a relationship i want to be in. And we do all have the right to say no to a relationship we don’t want, right?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Makes sense, just your wording that confused me

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you actually think its unethical to expect people not to lie? Trying to understand here, very far from my own set of beliefs :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Social punishment isnt inherent to the social relation we call monogamy, thats social norms, a connected but different thing. We can alle agree social norms often disparage people, but again different conversation.

  And its not ‘a fact’ that people in monogamous relations have consent over the other persons body, only their own. If the other person doesnt want to do monogamy, they are free to pursue that type of relation on their own. Thats their choice, as it is the monogamous persons choice to not stay in a relationship with he partner that doesnt want a monogamous relationship. Insisting they have to be together, irregardles of the wishes of the other person, sounds unproductive and unhealthy to me.

  “We treat” i dont. I recognize societal norms propogate one type of relationship, but that is once again a different conversation than the supposed ethicales of a social dynamic. The dynamic an sich is different from the norms around it.

  Dont let your grievences with the system become judgements of the people caught within.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I never called you unethical.

  I also find it ironic how you managed to compare monogamy to slavery, and then proceed to call me the unserious one. I dont see how they are comparable at all.

  How is a relationship wherein both people agree that, as long as they are together they only have sex with one another, and, if that agreement can no longer be honored, to go their separate ways, be unethical? Thats consent and boundary establishment and free association all the way through…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨question for the culture⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s interesting you say you dent get why people are so obsessed with other people’s genitals, when you seemingly care very much about he supposed unethicalness of other adults consentual sex lives. You’ve somehow managed to flip the very same ideological structure that has allowed poly people to be prosecuted historically, and just pointed that oppressive structure at monogamous folks instead. It’s in essence the very same mechanism just with the details flipped.

  I think you should reflect upon that. It’s obvious from your text that there’s the same sort of disgust mechanism at play as when traditionalists prejudice poly people. It’s a failure to empathize. Some things work best for some people, and that’s okay, let them live in their way, and some other things work best for some other people, and that’s okay too, also let them live in their way.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hay there⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Horsegiirl is a fucking Legend, pure choons

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  He should’ve just reposted his first tweet once a year. Reposting your own tweets just cause theyre banger is a king move

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Sober"⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The culture of drinking goes way further back than any other probably. Jesus drank wine. Meth is relatively new. So i think it’s the combo of being easily manufactured, and the tradition and cultural relevance of the substance as well.

  It’d be like trying to ban wheat-farming or something

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨normulize leguana⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Maybe but read into the history of prohibition and its pretty clear that ‘making it hard to start’ carries much bigger problems for society than any individual risk of addiction.

  Criminalization feeds Black markets, which leads to more organized crime. Also creates stigma which makes addicts less likely to seek out help. I’d you care about addicts, or society, dont advocate for ‘making it harder’. It’s antithetical to those positions, as it doesn’t help ANYTHING.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨where?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  1 or 5, others look exhausting tbh

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jensen Huang says gamers are 'completely wrong' about DLSS 5 — Nvidia CEO responds to DLSS 5 backlash⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t have to do anything, I’m just being vocal about certain feelings hoping others do the same. Boycotts don’t work yadda yadda sitting on yours also don’t work bla bla…

  in really not invested in what you decide to do at the end of the day, keep buying or don’t or whatever suits your fancy… I can just feel this move tainting Nvidia and their products with an inherent ‘ewww’ reaction on my part which very strongly disentivises ever buying their shit, and I feel like it’s generally good if people are honest about how they feel about phenomena in general, that’s how shared sentiments, zetgeist and ‘common sense’ is created u know

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jensen Huang says gamers are 'completely wrong' about DLSS 5 — Nvidia CEO responds to DLSS 5 backlash⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Trillions invested to make unoptimized games run and look worse at the same time, instead of just investing like 1/10th into optimization during dev cycles.

  NVIDIA really is like a parasitic cancerous growth on the side of the games industry, it’s existence increasingly predicated on the destruction of current standards, overtaking their function to ensure survival and it’s continuous ever expanding cancerous growth

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jensen Huang says gamers are 'completely wrong' about DLSS 5 — Nvidia CEO responds to DLSS 5 backlash⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  STOP BUYING NVIDIA

  i feel like we might as well drums up som eboycotting spirit while we’re at it. Shaming certainly has an effect as evidenced by his statement here, and if we could at to that a collectivist ‘no more more for you doofus’ energy i think that’d be swell.

  We aren’t their main customers anymore, but it woudlat least force them to also aknowledge this themselves. Hopefully.

  Idk peeæs keep adding pressure on these ghouls, seems to at least have gotten their attention

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Dumb glasses⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes…………

  Notice the ‘should’ in there?

  That word implys that he is talking about a moral prerogative and not a judicial matter…

  Which of course means its unenforceable. You’re missing the point entirely if you think that even needs to be brought up.

  Him: “People Ought to do this behaviour”

  Your: “Cant Force them hahahaha pwned 😎"

  Maybe just take a second to think about the implications of what you’re reading instead of embarrassing yourself like this going autocomplete mode and writing irrelevant ass comments

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨FADED. 🥴⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  WE ARE 🦅

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are you pissed?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  This man is my new idol