PapaSkwat
@PapaSkwat@lemmy.today
Здравствуйте! Just tickling the quantum machine.
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- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
I assume you have already looked it up after writing that; I would have a temptation.
Not yet. Still no temptation
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
You mean comments?
Yes, I meant your replies in this thread. I have not idea what your post history is and no desire or reason to look it up.
May I ask what exact part of my post lead to her suspecting I was one
Just the way you are replying to everything and being overly analytical on everything. You seem to be trying to attack this problem like a programmer who is programming something. Dude, real life ain’t like that.
I’m sure you already know some of the issues with your personality when it comes to things like this. And I’m sure you have noticed how many of your replies have been downvoted.
You are totally free to do what you want. But many here are giving you good advice based on their more rounded life experience. Yeah, you can go and say it all assumptions, we’re wrong, we don’t get you, we don’t know you, etc.
How much dating experience do you have? I have dated a lot, and I am not a great looking guy. So I have had to depend on my personality to date. And the way your personality comes across in this thread, isn’t one I have ever seen be overly successful when it comes to relationships or social interaction.
But you are right about the fact that we don’t REALLY know you. So let ur freak flag fly and do what you want. You asked for advice, but there is no law that says you have to follow it! :)
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, change like that does require self-reflection, which a lot of these types just don’t know how to do.
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
Out of curiosity I read OP’s post out to my gf. She asked if he was an incel. LMAO
I’m not saying he is one, but yeah, there is no way this is a good thing for OP to try and do.
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
Romeo and Juliet never got to live as a couple. Were they not in love?
Dude, they weren’t real. That was fiction, not a documentary.
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
No relationship, no love. If what you’re feeling is as strong as you claim, then the correct word would be infatuation, or possibly obsession.
Exactly this!
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
Yep, my stalker has his main account that he follows me with, but he starts new accounts to pile up the downvotes on my comments for a view days, then he either gets banned or he just deletes them. But he always calls me the same weird nickname in them to make sure I know it’s him, so he’s not even trying to disguise himself. It’s weird! LMAO
Like who the fuck has such a sad life that they obsess about someone on Lemmy of all places? Oh, the exact same kind of people you and I were discussing! The lack of social interacting just messes with their brain.
On another note tho, I wonder if they can be taught to change that. I know brain elasticity is a thing, and people can learn new habits, but i wonder of stalkers like that can rewire themselves. Are there any former stalkers who talk about that transition?
I know that some socially awkward people can focus on themselves and sorta get over it, end up dating, marrying, getting along with others in the workplace, etc. But I wonder if the extreme ones like stalkers can. I gotta look that up!
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
IMO a big, post-internet, problem is that people aren’t experiencing foundational relationships as children/teens that were the learning experiences to prepare people deeper connections like marriage.
Agreed. I started noticing it on Reddit a few years ago, and now that a new generation is reaching adulthood on both Reddit and Lemmy, it’s even more obvious. More people are reaching their 20s without having developed the social skills and real-world experiences that previous generations picked up naturally.
Society has always had socially awkward or isolated people, but technology has def amplified the problem. When I was younger, I spent most of my time around other people because there wasn’t an easy way to retreat into a digital world. That constant face-to-face interaction forced people to learn how to socialize, resolve conflicts, and build relationships.
The number of socially maladjusted people online today is striking. I also think that besides just more social awkwardness, it’s leading to more stalking and fixation issues for those same people.
I’ve had people obsessively follow and harass me on Lemmy just because I post news articles they don’t like. Not new behavior, but the scale of it seems greater than ever.
When people struggle to form meaningful connections and feel little control over their lives, online conflicts can become an unhealthy substitute for real accomplishment or social belonging.
It’s getting more noticeable every year.
And a special shoutout to my personal Lemmy stalker, NewPerspective, who will want to downvote this comment. A perfect example of my point. 😄
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
Some of the people here are family men who actually do know what we’re talking about.
Some of the shit I read on Lemmy always suprises me, until I remember that. lol
I think those of us who actually have been married, have families, and have been in working society for a while are pretty rare here on Lemmy.
The way a lot of posters on here talk, makesme wonder if they have even been in relationships before.
Once ya have kids to provide for, and learn how shit works, perceptions about the world become a lot more realistic and focused.
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
Great point. Man, I wish I would have known this in my 20’s. The world doesn’t run on logic, AND it can severely punish those who think it does. lol
But even in my 20’s I wasn’t quite as naive as OP seems to be based on his replies in this thread so far.
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
No.
Dude, let’s be real here. You’re wanting to say this to in the secret hopes that something good will come out of her knowing you liked her.
She doesn’t share the same feelings for you, and never did. Move on. Doing stuff like this, are the cringe things that annoy women. Just move on. This isn’t high school and you don’t have to continue being the awkward high school dude. She’s not the one for you.
Focus on finding the right person for you and stop tripping over stuff that’s in your rearview mirror.
- Comment on How accurate can your position be calculated from a photo of the sun you post online? 2 weeks ago:
Which is why I post pics of places that I’m not really at and that I’ve never personally taken. I have a lemmy stalker who’s pretty persistent, and I love randomly planting fake personal asides in my texts so the incel has no idea where I really am. Like this morning when I took a stroll along the riverfront and posted some pics of my nice peaceful walk.
And he always falls for it and tries to say he knows where I am while dropping hints about me and shit. Dude isn’t even right about he country I’m in or what nationality I am. Winding him up with so many false clues is kinda fun for me. LMAO
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Claim it as hobby income.
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