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No.

Dude, let’s be real here. You’re wanting to say this to in the secret hopes that something good will come out of her knowing you liked her.

She doesn’t share the same feelings for you, and never did. Move on. Doing stuff like this, are the cringe things that annoy women. Just move on. This isn’t high school and you don’t have to continue being the awkward high school dude. She’s not the one for you.

Focus on finding the right person for you and stop tripping over stuff that’s in your rearview mirror.

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nitroemdash@lemmy.wtf ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

And for the love of everything holy and unholy, stop doing awkward shit like this! Your post is cringe enough, but hey, at least you are thinking before you do it. But your posts, are making me think you haven’t changed at all.

You mean comments?

Changed compared to what anchor point?

I read your post out to my gf just now, and she rolled her eyes and said, “Oh god, one of those guys. Is he an incel?” Then laughed.

May I ask what exact part of my post lead to her suspecting I was one (apparently in modern definition)?

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- PapaSkwat@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  You mean comments?
  
  Yes, I meant your replies in this thread. I have not idea what your post history is and no desire or reason to look it up.
  
  May I ask what exact part of my post lead to her suspecting I was one
  
  Just the way you are replying to everything and being overly analytical on everything. You seem to be trying to attack this problem like a programmer who is programming something. Dude, real life ain’t like that.
  
  I’m sure you already know some of the issues with your personality when it comes to things like this. And I’m sure you have noticed how many of your replies have been downvoted.
  
  You are totally free to do what you want. But many here are giving you good advice based on their more rounded life experience. Yeah, you can go and say it all assumptions, we’re wrong, we don’t get you, we don’t know you, etc.
  
  How much dating experience do you have? I have dated a lot, and I am not a great looking guy. So I have had to depend on my personality to date. And the way your personality comes across in this thread, isn’t one I have ever seen be overly successful when it comes to relationships or social interaction.
  
  But you are right about the fact that we don’t REALLY know you. So let ur freak flag fly and do what you want. You asked for advice, but there is no law that says you have to follow it! :)
  
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  - nitroemdash@lemmy.wtf ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    Yes, I meant your replies in this thread. I have no idea what your post history is and no desire or reason to look it up.
    
    I assume you have already looked it up after writing that; I would have a temptation. I want to clarify that the post about solar inclination-based geolocation where you were also present was a part of a separate thought process going on for a few days and it being posted close in time was just a coincidence.
    
    Just the way you are replying to everything and being overly analytical on everything. You seem to be trying to attack this problem like a programmer who is programming something. Dude, real life ain’t like that.
    
    I thought “incels” (in modern degradatory definition) were supposed to be emotional guys who hate women because they don’t have feelings they want. Not people who approach dating rationally and try to estimate each other’s feelings using best scientific methods available. Never heard Sheldon Cooper, or Data from TNG being called this way.
    
    BTW, I think you said you read just the post to her before getting this reaction, you never said anything about the comments.
    
    How much dating experience do you have?
    
    None, and I was never accused in being improper in trying to get into one—because I approach the subject rationally. I would never approach anyone in that way until I’m reasonably confident they are interested in me in a sufficient degree. Finding the most compatible person may be a lifetime-long quest, but it pays off at the end.
    
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    PapaSkwat@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    I assume you have already looked it up after writing that; I would have a temptation.
    
    Not yet. Still no temptation
    
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