neatchee

@neatchee@piefed.social

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t listen?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There could be a variety of reasons for this behavior…

  • She is uncomfortable because she doesn’t know how to comfort you
  • She is avoiding her own trauma triggers
  • She is ADHD or Autistic and doesn’t understand what’s expected of her in those moments
  • She is not looking for a partner and only wants a relationship that’s “fun”
  • She is callous and doesn’t care to put in the effort to support a partner

  But here’s the thing… the root cause is not important (yet)

  If your partner is unwilling or unable to support you, that’s not a good partner for you. That doesn’t make her a bad person necessarily…she may not be capable of dealing with everything you’re going through. But even if that’s the case then she still might not be the right partner for you.

  I recommend trying to get her to focus on you before having your next conversation about this. Don’t start talking about the problem until her phone is away and she’s making eye contact. Don’t do it over text.

  If she can’t do that much, then it is probably time to move on. And if she listens and ignores you…it’s probably time to move one.

  Communication is hard. And it’s the most important thing in relationships.

  Good luck!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's a wild life out there!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s relatively easy to go after each of 20 independent 1 million person protests one at a time. It’s comparatively difficult to deal with 20 million people

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's a wild life out there!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  You’re not wrong, but I think you might overestimate the number of states where anything like this could actually happen. It would be spun as a “leftist rebellion” and they’d send in the militia fuckers with glee IMO

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's a wild life out there!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  If we don’t cause discomfort for the federal representatives, I’m afraid they will just call it a local problem much as they’ve done with the No Kings protests up to this point

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's a wild life out there!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Even people inside the US have a poor concept of just how big it is.

  Like, only India, Russia, and to a lesser degree China compare to the US in terms of livable land area. After that is Brazil at less than half.

  I honestly don’t think it’s a coincidence that all four of those countries have a serious authoritarian leadership problem right now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's a wild life out there!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Maximum travel time by the lesser of car or train to the Capitol for each country:

  Albania 4.5 – 5.5 hours (by car)

  Serbia 4 – 4.5 hours (by car)

  Spain ~3.5 – 4.5 hours (via AVE high-speed rail)

  France ~4.5 – 6.5 hours (via TGV high-speed rail)

  United States 43 – 46 hours (by car, excludes Alaska and Hawaii)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  /me guzzles martini glass of olives

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s not very Derek of you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Define “drawn sexually”? Or give me an example? That seems like an incredibly subjective assessment

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Does putting an adult mind in the body of a child immediately imply sexualization? Or can you specifically name the instances of this where the characters are sexualized?

  I watch a shit load of anime and off the top of my head I can think of three that fall into the latter category. (And no, I did not continue watching those shows)

  Westerners have a tendency to sexualize anything that breathes. That says a lot more about our culture and issues than it does about Japanese culture.

  The “powerful spiritual entity regressing to the form of a child” has a long, deeply rooted history in eastern religion and culture. It is not inherently sexual. It is not an excuse to sexualize children. And many Japanese people see westerners as the ones with a problem for projecting sexualization into minors in these scenarios. In their world view, a powerful old spirit in a regressed body is still a powerful old spirit, not a child. Form does not dictate function.

  The history behind it is genuinely fascinating (happy to point you at the research I did on this specific subject a while back).

  Of course there are absolutely serious problems with some content where there is 100% sexualization of minors (and worse) going on. But that’s far more the exception than the rule.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Check carefully⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Only if they’re trying to illegally smuggle it and the shipments got mixed up

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PlayStation Reportedly Sending Game Developers Massive Survey With Question Asking About Physical Discs⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  There are so many other factors and motivations that a) keep console games from being PC compatible and b) incentivize closed console ecosystems

  It’s one of my pet peeves around the the online discourse regarding discs. So many people are looking at the issue one-dimensionally, and don’t have a full picture of motivations and implications.

  I’m not gonna pretend it’s not about profit. Of course it’s all about money. But it is decisively not “we’re gonna make more money by taking people’s stuff away when we feel like it”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes. Foolishly most of the less expensive dishwashers don’t heat the water themselves, and the first cycle is more effective if it doesn’t have a period of using cool water from the pipes until the hot water arrives.

  I was skeptical at first too but it truly works.

  But it may be worth clarifying to your partner that once the water is coming out of the tap hot, the water in the hot pipes is already hot, so turning the tap to cool at that point no longer negatively impacts the dishwasher.

  The important part is getting the cool water in the hot water pipes that has been sitting there flushed out before starting the dishwasher. If that’s already achieved, then what you do with the tap doesn’t matter anymore

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do most Americans vote just based on name recognizing without any thinking of the platform? Or pigeon hole a candidate to one issue and vote for them? Even if that issue is way against beliefs?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yup. Bodily autonomy is non-negotiable. Abortions should be legal for the same reason organ donation is opt-in, not opt-out. Nobody, fetus or otherwise, has a right to the use of your body without your ongoing consent.

  Once you’ve donated something you cannot take it back, sure, but you cannot be forced to continue donating against your will.

  Could you imagine if someone argued “you agreed to donate plasma on an ongoing basis, and the recipient needs it to live, so you’re not allowed to stop donating, even if it could kill you”?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Experimental Build Of Nvidia’s DLSS 5 AI Slop Filter Leaks And Turns Beloved Video Game Characters Into Uncanny Valley Weirdos⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  do you know when that build was cut? do you know if it’s a standard build or a debug build? do you know if it’s performance optimized or mid development? do you know if it’s being used in games for which it’s intended? do you know if it’s a branch build or a mainline build? do you know if the studio for the game has provided feedback on that build and had their work integrated?

  no?

  then we have no idea what we’re even talking shit about

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Experimental Build Of Nvidia’s DLSS 5 AI Slop Filter Leaks And Turns Beloved Video Game Characters Into Uncanny Valley Weirdos⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  sorry but I’ve worked at enough companies and dealt with enough timetables to say “unreleased is unreleased for a reason”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Experimental Build Of Nvidia’s DLSS 5 AI Slop Filter Leaks And Turns Beloved Video Game Characters Into Uncanny Valley Weirdos⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  look, I’m not in favor of ai slop and DLSS 5 used without creators’ consent or input is fucked…

  …but another title for this story could be “unfinished, unreleased product deemed not ready for release” …

  Like, you just slapped an unfinished version onto whatever game they had been tinkering with and then roast them for the uncanny valley effect? That’s some manufactured outrage

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The System does not work.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  IPUMS Current Population Survey (CPS) Microdata, 2000–2025

  Found on a realtor.com research article. Didn’t check the original source but I’ve never known that site to provide fabricated data (and this was historical graphs and everything)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The System does not work.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For those curious 2025 is about 33%

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The System does not work.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Book publishers and economists have a very different definition of what “young adult” means

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Never sleeping again⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  ‘Cause I’ve been daydreaming about a pterodactyl named Lamar When he’s tired of flying, he drives a car

  He’s got to get to work on time His nursing job is on the line His wife is always on his case Why can’t she give Lamar some space?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MARVEL Tōkon: Fighting Souls appears to block SteamOS / Linux⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  “Ban cheaters if they find them” <= this is what anti-cheat is for, it’s not just prevention, it’s data collection to identify the cheaters who limit their cheating to just looking highly skilled

  “I doubt that running into a cheater… is going to deter you from competing” <= People who compete at the level you’re talking about are the minority. Most players are non-vocal, online-only players who will bounce out just a few weeks after encountering anti-social behavior like cheating.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MARVEL Tōkon: Fighting Souls appears to block SteamOS / Linux⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This is big “just fix the bug, duh” energy

  If you’re this confident in how easy it is, you have the opportunity to make a fortune as the only person who can ‘just do it’ in the industry. You should get hired ASAP. I can refer you to the right people if you think you can pass the interview.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MARVEL Tōkon: Fighting Souls appears to block SteamOS / Linux⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For what it’s worth, the issue isn’t the rarity; it’s the scope of impact and undermining of the integrity of the product.

  For highly competitive games, even the ability for players to say “there are cheaters, I know there are, and so I think that person is one of them” is a long-term sentiment drain that is not trivial. There are internal research numbers on what exposure to a single cheater does to players’ perception of game integrity and trust in the fairness of their experience, and it’s really really bad

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I mean does anybody really know how to play Chess?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Business is like Start Craft 2, you gotta raise your APM if you want to beat the Korean pros

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Girls is it just me that gets really emotional when singing and I cry so hard that I have to change my blankets? 😭⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  bro this is lemmyshitpost not lemmypisspost c’mon

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  you still didn’t answer my question about all the people who lived before the Quran. Were they all immoral? Was slavery morally allowed before the Quran was written? Or were they immoral but ignorant of their immorality only because nobody had told them yet?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So then everyone before the Quran was immoral? literally not a single human being existed before the Quran was written who was moral? Or were they immoral without knowing it because nobody had told them “slavery is wrong” yet?

  It’s also important to note that according to Surah Al-An’am 6:112, any human who rebels against God and dedicated themselves to leading others astray is classified as a demon.

  So I guess enslaving an atheist activist like Richard Dawkins is morally acceptable according to you? Since he is, according to the Quran, a demon?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t think we understand sentience yet. I think it is possible, if not likely, that there are sentient things which we believe are not.

  i also don’t think a heart is relevant at all to sentience, as it plays no role in perception which I believe is the core of sentience. The heart is just a pump that moves resources through the body.

  I don’t think a nervous system is necessary either, unless you define “nervous system” very broadly. I think any sufficiently complex sensory input system would be enough to provide the elements of perception required to foster sentience.

  As for the brain…. I’m not convinced it has to look like a brain as we know. The brain provides a few primary functions, but only a few of them are related to perception (many are instead related to automation of bodily functions). I think any system that can receive input, store a memory (and I don’t mean cognitive recall, I just mean historical record in the loosest sense), and perform complex conditional responses based on the input and memory could produce something we would call sentience.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  at what point do you distinguish a thing from the components it’s made of?

  You say neurons have qualia, but its parts certainly don’t. Proteins don’t. Lipids don’t. Molecules don’t. But when you put them together in a specific configuration you say they do?

  How is this different from silica? Why can’t a thing composed of silica have qualia even if the parts individually don’t?