Perspectivist
@Perspectivist@feddit.uk
Freedom is the right to tell people what they do not want to hear.
- George Orwell
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
People break up. Just because someone is 40 and single doesn’t mean they’ve always been.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
The only common denominator in all your bad experiences with women is you. It’s not their fault that you’re single, and as long as you keep thinking that, you’ll probably stay that way.
Put yourself in their shoes - would you date yourself? Would you date a guy who goes around thinking “women suck”?
If you want a relationship with a woman, then work on becoming the kind of person a woman would actually want to be with.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
34M here - just got dumped after a 9-year relationship about two months ago.
Why? Well, multiple reasons. In short: the love just died. Everything was “fine,” but neither of us was particularly happy. We didn’t have that much in common to begin with. Communication was good, and there wasn’t really any one specific event that caused the breakup. I’d say the two biggest factors were excessive weed use - for both of us - which made things feel “fine” despite the spark being gone, along my lifelong porn addiction, which eventually killed my interest in sex entirely and distorted my sense in what kind of women I find attractive. That also made her feel undesirable herself which didn’t help.
I didn’t put enough effort into the relationship and started taking her for granted. I think there was a bit of self-sabotage involved too - deep down I knew that if I didn’t change, this would be the outcome, yet I kept doing it anyway. Maybe I was subconsciously hoping she’d end it because I didn’t have the guts to.
Right now, I just feel numb. I don’t like being alone, but at least I don’t have to worry about being abandoned. I’m trying to take this time to reflect on my life and figure out what’s next. Honestly, in a perfect world, I’d love to find a caring, asexual woman - someone with whom I’d never have to worry about sex again.
- Comment on Research shows 4K or 8K screens offer no distinguishable benefit over similarly sized 2K screen in average living room 4 days ago:
My 15 year old FullHD 48" LED TV is about 4 meters away from my couch and when watching a 1080p movie I can’t possibly imagine how a sharper image would add anything to the experience.
- Comment on What is the self? 6 days ago:
It’s an illusion that there is a centre to consciousness. It’s a subjective feeling that you are located somewhere up there behind your face looking out into the world, authoring your thoughts and making decisions.
- Comment on What are some good things to purchase to add a new distraction to my life? 1 week ago:
Flashlights really do seem like an endless rabbit hole to sink into. They’re surprisingly affordable too - there are tons of Chinese models in the 30–60 euro range that outperform name brands costing over 100 euros.
You could even turn it into a challenge: try to research the absolute best everyday carry flashlight for yourself and see if it arrives in the mail before you’ve already found a better alternative.
- Comment on Why don't police use rubber bullets instead of live rounds? I get if someone is holding a loaded weapon. But wouldn't a rubber bullet have the same effect with out putting holes in another person? 1 week ago:
Putting holes in people is what guns are for. If you don’t intend to do that, don’t use a gun - that’s what hand-to-hand combat training, batons, tasers and pepper spray are for.
There’s also a moral-hazard problem: rubber bullets can still be lethal, but the threshold for using them is lower, which could actually lead to more deaths, not fewer.
- Comment on Is there any way the average American can insulate themselves from the AI bubble bursting? 1 week ago:
If you’re certain an “AI crash” is coming, then shorting AI companies is how you’d not only avoid the fallout but actually profit from it. That’s speculative investing though - basically gambling.
For everyone else without the ability to predict the future, the general advice stays the same: invest in low-cost, highly diversified index funds spread across sectors and regions. The markets are deeply interconnected, so it doesn’t really matter where you’re invested - when the market crashes, you’re getting hit. If you’re all in on tech, you’ll get hit hard; if you’re spread out, you’ll get hit less. But either way, you’ll feel it.
For someone in it for the long run, it doesn’t matter what the market’s doing. I just keep doing what I’ve always done - managing my finances carefully and investing my savings.
- Comment on Is there any way the average American can insulate themselves from the AI bubble bursting? 1 week ago:
The main issue in Japan during the 90s was that the government refused to acknowledge the reality of the situation and let the market crash. Instead of allowing bankruptcies and bad loans to clear, they propped up banks and corporations for years - freezing growth and causing decades of deflation and stagnation. The real lesson from Japan isn’t about the crash itself, but about the response: avoiding short-term pain led to long-term paralysis.
If an AI bubble bursts, it would probably resemble the dot-com crash more than Japan’s experience. Central banks act much faster now, bad debt gets cleared out instead of buried, and the global economy isn’t built entirely on AI speculation. So even if valuations take a hard hit, a decades-long depression like Japan’s is very unlikely.
- Comment on Is there any way the average American can insulate themselves from the AI bubble bursting? 1 week ago:
If you’re not invested in the stock market, you don’t lose anything when it crashes - and if you are invested, you only lose if you sell at a loss. I understand the anxiety around economic uncertainty after a crash, but I get the sense that many people don’t really understand how “losing one’s investments” actually works.
- Comment on Is there any way the average American can insulate themselves from the AI bubble bursting? 1 week ago:
How did you handle previous stock market crashes, and why do you expect this time to be different? I’m heavily invested in the market, yet I’m not losing any sleep over the possibility of a crash - meanwhile, people who don’t even seem to invest are the ones worrying about it. I can’t help but wonder why that is.
- Comment on NVIDIA’s New AI’s Movements Are So Real It’s Uncanny 1 week ago:
Isn’t that bit of an oxymoron? Uncanny implies something doesn’t look natural.
- Comment on What's the best way to deal with a genuinely malicious troll who constantly says the evidence against him is slander when it's not? 1 week ago:
If it bothers you that much, you can always just make a new account to lose the tail - because that’s exactly what they’ll do once you finally get them banned or whatever your endgame is.
Just block and move on. It’s an anonymous message board. Someone following you around and “vandalizing” your posts is completely meaningless. They’re wasting their time - you’ve already won.
- Comment on When Everything Is Fake, What’s the Point of Social Media? 1 week ago:
I think the user bears some responsibility here too. Consuming an unfiltered social media feed isn’t ideal, in my opinion. Mindlessly scrolling through whatever TikTok’s algorithm serves you is exactly how people get sucked into rabbit holes where they can no longer even tell what’s real and what’s fake.
The same goes for platforms like Lemmy - the difference is that instead of algorithms, your feed is handpicked by people with agendas, sprinkled with a few bots. We’re all gullible. We like to think we’re not, but we are. We believe what we want to be true and seek out what confirms what we already think. Unless you actively go out of your way to improve the signal-to-noise ratio, and expose yourself to alternative views then noise and confirmation bias is what you’ll mostly get.
- Comment on How would you quickly describe Lemmy to a non-fediverse person? 1 week ago:
Like reddit but mostly politics and no videos.
- Comment on Study proves being rude to AI chatbots gets better results than being nice 2 weeks ago:
You’re right that an LLM doesn’t care how it’s treated - it’s not conscious. But that’s not really the point. The way people treat things that seem human still says something about them, not the thing. If someone goes out of their way to be cruel to a chatbot that’s just trying to be helpful, it’s not the bot that’s being tested - it’s the person’s capacity for empathy and restraint.
It’s the same instinct behind how we treat animals, or even how kids treat toys - being kind to something that can’t fight back is part of what keeps us human. And historically, the “it’s not really human, so it doesn’t matter” argument has been used to justify a lot of awful behavior.
So no, the AI doesn’t care. But maybe it still matters that we do.
- Comment on Study proves being rude to AI chatbots gets better results than being nice 2 weeks ago:
Being ethical in real life doesn’t always give you the best outcome either - doesn’t mean you still shouldn’t be so.
- Comment on Richest American to FAFO? 2 weeks ago:
That’s money he found between his couch cushions. It’s a rounding error on his balance sheet.
- Comment on Does anyone else notice an up tick in hostility on Lemmy lately? 2 weeks ago:
People are desperately combing through comments, looking for something to be outraged about. That’s what happens in echo chambers - when the outgroup isn’t around to attack, people start eating their own. It turns into this insane purity spiral where nobody is ever good enough.
- Comment on ChatGPT will soon allow erotica for verified adults, OpenAI boss says 2 weeks ago:
This is the feature that ChatGPT lacked that made me switch to Grok for a while which didn’t seem to have any of these restrictions. I switched back though as ChatGPT just seems to perform much better overall. And it’s cheaper.
- Comment on What's a bad habit you use to have for a long time but finally fixed? 2 weeks ago:
It’s way too early to say that I have fixed it yet, but I quit a severe, two decade long porn addiction and a decade long daily weed smoking cold turkey a little over month ago and haven’t looked back. I might go back to occasional weed smoking at some point once I’ve truly tasted what life feels like without but with porn I’m not sure if I can go back without it spiraling out of control again.
- Comment on Cynical and pessimistic people. 🫤 2 weeks ago:
Cynicism is the number one thing I dislike about social media commentary. I think a lot of people believe pessimism makes them look smart, but in my view, it just poisons the air for everyone.
- Comment on The AI bubble is 17 times the size of the dot-com frenzy and four times the subprime bubble, analyst says 2 weeks ago:
It’s worth remembering that every major technological shift has gone through a speculative boom that looked like a scam in the moment. The dot-com bubble didn’t mean the internet was a fraud - it just meant people overestimated how quickly its impact would pay off. The same was true for the housing market after the subprime crash: people still need places to live. What’s happening with AI now feels similar. There’s definitely hype and inflated valuations, but that doesn’t mean the underlying technology will vanish once the bubble bursts. The noise will fade, and what’s genuinely useful will become infrastructure - quietly integrated into everyday life, just like the internet did.
- Comment on Aight. Let's be honest. How many of you dress for yourselves, and how many dress for others? 2 weeks ago:
Anyone who claims they don’t have other people in mind when choosing their outfit is lying - either to you or to themselves.
That said, I don’t think I’d dress any differently even if I were the only person left on the planet. I’ve got this outdoorsy, mildly militaristic “gray man” style that I like but I’m doing it for myself - not for others. Still, there’s an image of how I hope others perceive me, because that’s also how I like to think of myself. So it wouldn’t be honest to say I never think about other people’s perception.
Probably the only piece of clothing I avoid wearing in public because of how it might be perceived is my hiking/combat boots - they admittedly give off a bit of a nationalistic vibe, especially paired with the rest of my outfit. I still wear them for outdoor activities, of course, just not to the grocery store.
Now that I think about it, I do sometimes also not put on a beanie because I think my hair looks better but a beanie is arguably more comfy.
- Comment on A tangled web of deals stokes AI bubble fears in Silicon Valley 2 weeks ago:
Basically, the only way to truly “lose it all” in a market crash is if you’re all-in on a company that goes under - or if you actually own that company. Most investors don’t really lose anything. Their portfolio value drops for a while, but if they can wait it out, it usually recovers within a year or so.
When you hear about people losing their savings in a market crash, it’s usually because they panic-sold at a loss. Even then, they don’t lose everything - just a portion. People like me, who invest for the long term and mostly in highly diversified index funds, are more or less unaffected. We’re not planning to sell for decades anyway. If anything, we’ll just buy more for a discount.
Not that I’m rich or anything but the point is that rich people generally aren’t stupid when it comes to finances - otherwise they wouldn’t be rich. It’s the people who don’t know better who take the hit.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
The original claim was that ChatGPT has no viable use cases, and grammar correction and text editing clearly disproves that. Whether it’s cheaper or not is just moving the goalposts and doesn’t change the fact that it works and people use it daily. Also, calling it “vastly inferior” is baseless - traditional grammar tools can’t handle nuance, tone, or context the way ChatGPT does.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
single viable use case
Grammar correction and text editing.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Recreational outrage at its finest.
- Comment on Phones may come without bundled USB cables in the future, if OEMs have their way 3 weeks ago:
That’s okay. I can use one of the 20 cables I have already laying around.
- Comment on If you lose your memories, are "you" dead? If a close relative/friend lose their memories, are they still "your relative/friend"? What the hell even is memory? How sentimental are you about memories? 3 weeks ago:
I believe that the entire concept of “self” is just an illusion. There is no “you” back there behind your face looking out into the world. There’s just consciousness - the fact of experience and its content. The sense of self is just an appereance in consciousness. Not something that’s outside or separate of it.