Wolf
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- Comment on What's your test for people? 3 weeks ago:
I wasn’t saying we are conditioned to find women sexy. I’m saying we have been conditioned to treat women as sex objects and not sexy people. There is a big difference.
The clue is in the name. Objectification is when you treat someone like a thing to be desired, and not like a whole human being with thoughts and desires of their own. When you act like getting you aroused is their sole purpose and/or the only value they possess.
It’s a learned behavior like racism or misogyny. And no, It won’t always happen, not once we evolve enough emotionally as a species to treat all human beings with love and respect.
- Comment on What's your test for people? 3 weeks ago:
I think people should be able to feel attractive if they want and not be objectified. I don’t think men objectify women because they look pretty, I think we do it because we have been conditioned to think of women that way.
I actually prefer when women don’t wear tons of makeup, most of the women I date wear very little or none at all. That being said if they ever decide to wear makeup I think it’s great because they are expressing themselves. Either way I look at them as people first, even if I think they are beautiful.
I also wear earrings and occasionally a simple necklace. I don’t think I’m objectifing myself, just that is how I like to look like. I think the same is true for a lot of women.
I know you don’t mean it this way, but it almost sounds like you a validating the viewpoint of certain gross people who ask SA victims what they were wearing.
I think even the most knockout drop dead gorgeous people deserve to not be objectified. And whether I find them to be typically has nothing to do with how much makeup they are wearing or how much jewelry they have on.
If the only reason someone isn’t objectifing you is because you dress plainly, that seems like they still aren’t good people. I know it is a super prevalent though.
To each their own though. I’m also the guy who thinks people should be able to walk around completely naked and not be harassed or objectified, so my viewpoint isn’t typical at all.
I’m not the one who down voted you by the way. I think it’s weird to do that to people just because you don’t agree with them.
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
Shots fired!
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
Lol, that’s really cool. As a Fallout fan I couldn’t help making the connection.
Good luck in getting the timing right!
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
For sure. I just looked it up out of curiosity to see if the source it gave was real or not. As someone living in my own metaphorical root cellar, it was actually enlightening and something I really needed to hear right now.
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
The Potato Parable It has nothing to do what the AI said ofc, nor was it written by Caitlin D’Arcy, who is a character on a TV show. lol
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
You trying to create ‘Tatos’? Lol
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
I don’t know but I love the fact that even AI is calling EA out on it’s bullshit!
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
I can confirm it works for DuckDuckGo as well.
I love how it even lists ‘sources’ lol (I checked, that phrase does not appear in either “source”)
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 5 weeks ago:
Well… depending on how long ago you separated from that partner who tried to pressure you into marriage, you could discover how her decision to return to someone who mistreated her turned out.
Unfortunately, a few weeks after we split up she told me that she couldn’t handle being just friends with me and so I left her alone. A couple years later I ran into one of her friends, who told me she moved back home to Kentucky and she had another child with him (he was already her baby daddy when I was with her). Hopefully they are having a wonderful life. As far as him mistreating her goes all she really said about him was that he was mean to her and he had a small penis- so hopefully that’s as bad as it got. I have tried to look her up and despite her having an unusual first name- Facebook wasn’t any help and I’d have no idea how to find her other than that. I have no idea what her married last name would be. It was almost 25 years ago when we dated.
I’ll be honest… I ended up being much more generous of myself than I would have ever pictured me. Marriage does not come without its sacrifices.
I can see that, and no shade to people who did get married. I used to find the idea of marriage kind of beautiful, until my ‘first love’ and former fiance kind of stabbed me in the back. I suppose in some ways I’m cynical towards the concept. And to be perfectly honest I have struggled with mental illness most of my life and it’s not getting any better- so that effects my prospects romantically. I always said that I’d rather be alone and unhappy than with someone and miserable- so it may have been a self fulfilling prophecy in some ways.
Anyway it’s really cool that you were able to reach inside and find the fortitude to make those sacrifices and make things work out for you guys. That shows a lot of character. A lot of people never find that which is partially why the divorce rate is so high I think.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 5 weeks ago:
No, but I don’t really believe in marriage anyway.
The way I see it if you are only with someone because of a promise, that is less special than being with someone because you currently want to be with them. I’ve had several meaningful relationships over the years and have no regrets. I wouldn’t trade any of that for being stuck in an unsatisfying relationship or giving the government control over my personal life like being legally married requires you to be.
I’m a pretty unconventional person though and most of the women I am attracted to felt the same way, with one exception. That relationship ended way too early because I didn’t believe in marriage. The crazy thing is I probably would have eventually married her because it was important to her, but she gave me an ultimatum and I hate being manipulated like that, so I broke it off. The speed at which she got back with her ex bf who supposedly treated her badly tells me that I made the right choice.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 5 weeks ago:
There was an unspoken rule for Gen-X — it was in many ways as you have described here. If you got rejected by a girl… that door was closed. And there wasn’t really room for friendship. If you got burned by a girl, you moved on and didn’t even pretend to like them. Done
I am Gen-X as well. That ‘rule’ might have been true in certain social circles, but it wasn’t a rule among my friends at all. I had lots of female friends. (I didn’t call them females though, I called them women or girls). Some of whom I had turned down in a romantic capacity, some of whom had turned me down, and some of whom were already in relationships or we just weren’t each others type.
It think the difference is all in mindset. I didn’t continue to be friends with the girls who turned me down in the hopes that one day they might change their mind. I stayed friends with them because they were cool people who I liked as people. And I hope at least the same was true for the women I had turned down.
And in the time there were even instances where I did get involved with women I had previously turned down, and with women who had turned me down. None of those relationships worked out in the long run, but we all remained friends afterwards.
I think it’s a problem to have the mindset that being friends with a girl means you are ‘just waiting’ your turn or whatever. Some women are amazing people and worth knowing as friends, it’s not all about sex. In fact it’s probably the fact that I treated my lady friends as human beings that we would end up getting together in a lot of cases. I wasn’t expecting it, or waiting on it, or ‘simping’ or whatever. I was just their friend
- Comment on RFK Jr. Blames violent video games for Mass Shootings. 5 weeks ago:
You mean the same dumbass that blames an ingredient that hasn’t been in vaccines in over 20 years for Autism, an ingredient that has never been shown to cause autism in the first place? Does anyone actually take this jackass seriously?
Bobby Kennedy must be rolling over in his grave.
- Comment on Time to bash Americans again 1 month ago:
Beating up the bully requires one to be capable of such when the bully may be larger and physically imposing and part of a group then not getting treated as the guilty party afterward
I was small for my age up until 10th grade. Bullies would look at how small I was and decide I was an easy target, so they would start in on me. One thing you have to realize is that bullies aren’t bullies because they are tough and good at fighting, they pick on the smallest, ‘weakest’ kids they can find- so being a great fighter isn’t nearly as important as being willing to fight back in the first place. The point isn’t to beat them up, it’s to make them think twice about picking on you. If there is a chance they will get hurt, even if they end up winning the fight, they will always just move on to the next victim who wont fight back.
Between 5th grade and 10th grade I got into 1 fight every year. A kid who didn’t know me would try to bully me, and I would defend myself. I never lost a fight, not because I was a badass or anything, but the teachers would break up the fights before it progressed too far. I would always get in trouble with the school, but never with my parents who taught me it was ok to defend myself (but not start fights). When word got around that about the fight, I wouldn’t get picked on the rest of the school year. When the next year rolled around it was either a new student, or I was the new student. Someone who didn’t know me basically who would try to bully me.
You just have to ask yourself- would you rather accept the bullying and allow it to continue, or risk getting beat up by fighting back and getting in trouble- but putting a stop to it.
- Comment on Time to bash Americans again 1 month ago:
an option that a lot of immigrants don’t have.
Especially when a lot of the same type of people will throw a fit if an ‘immigrant’ doesn’t do everything they can to assimilate.
- Comment on Checkmate theists 1 month ago:
My god ran to the store for some pineapple to put on this bad boy.
- Comment on Little Pea Shooters 1 month ago:
Whatever speed an objet may gain while entering orbit should be lost when exiting it, right ?
That is true from the frame of reference of the planet. From the frame of a 3rd distant object that you want to accelerate towards, it appears you have gained momentum.
So I guess it’s the cinetic energy of the planet that is actually fuelling the spacecraft, isn’t it ?
Yes, but the mechanism for ‘extracting’ the kinetic energy from the planet is by using ‘gravity’, hence the name, “Gravitational Slingshot”.
- Comment on Little Pea Shooters 1 month ago:
While it’s true that your spacecraft would have to ‘counter that gravity’ to escape, that’s from the frame of reference of the planet. From the frame of reference of whatever distant object you want your craft to ‘accelerate’ towards, your craft will appear to have gained momentum. If it were a zero sum game- there would be no “gravitational slingshot” effect (aka gravity assist maneuver).
The way your spacecraft ‘steals’ kinetic energy from the planet it orbits is by using the “gravity” of the planet. The two objects never come into physical contact with one another, the mass of the ship and the mass of the planet effect each others path through space-time- although very slightly. That is to say they seem to ‘pull’ on each other- what we call gravity.
The Earth and the Moon likewise ‘steal’ energy from each other through ‘tidal’ interactions. This causes the Earth to rotate more slowly and the moon to recede from our planet- this is all due to ‘gravity’.
Black holes also have kinetic energy that you can ‘steal’, to boost yourself toward a third celestial body just like planets do.
- Comment on Little Pea Shooters 1 month ago:
Why wouldn’t it? A gravity well is a gravity well. As long as you remain outside the event horizon it should work in the same way.
- Comment on Little Pea Shooters 1 month ago:
ITT, a bunch of people who simultaneously admit that they don’t really know for sure arguing with the people explaining it to them.
It’s ok to not know things. It’s okay to be confused. It’s much better to ask for clarification or do your own research than to tell people who do know that they are wrong.
Why are we like this?
- Comment on You are stardust. 1 month ago:
I was going to say I am column A and B, but I don’t cry about it.
We ARE miracles, we ARE “The Universe experiencing itself” and we are insignificant on the cosmic scale. Those things aren’t mutually exclusive.
- Comment on Who is the enemy? 1 month ago:
Do funeral homes in Canada charge grieving families 15-20k to bury their loved ones?
- Comment on 💀 💀 💀 2 months ago:
When I was filling out paperwork for my last job, it had a space for ‘Country’, which I thought was odd, but I put in USA anyway. The manager who took it said to me “You were supposed to put what County you live in here.” I said “Read it again”
Apparently they had been using the same form for years and no one noticed it said ‘Country’.
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
I appreciate you taking the time to reply in detail, thanks :)
I’ve never heard of the Ruliad before- I will definitely look into that.
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
I appreciate your detailed answer, thank you for taking the time :D
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
Gracias, amigo
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
It’s confusing. I don’t understand what the difference is between something which is made of ‘a pure abstract concept’, specifically math, and a simulation- which is also made out of math.
I’m not saying it’s something ran on a computer somewhere, just that the abstract concepts that make up our universe, if it is “made of math”, clearly has rules that it obeys- like the speed of light in a vacuum or the other constants. Which would seem to be analogous to parameters in a more traditional simulation. If ‘math’ is something that exists independent of sentient beings, couldn’t whatever that is be the ‘thing’ that the ‘simulation’ is ran on?
I guess where I’m getting hung up is the idea that the universe can be ‘made of’ something that has no ‘reality’. Am I just misunderstanding what it’s meant by ‘made of math’? Like even if math is ‘discovered’, how would that be any different than us inventing it, if it exists ‘without any reality’?
To be fair, there is lots of stuff I don’t understand, but I am trying- go easy on me.
I was being cheeky about the ‘cheat mode’ thing (unless it’s real then I’m in).
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
I’ve heard that ‘our reality is made of math’ before. Does this mean that we do in fact living in a simulation, even if that simulation wasn’t necessarily programmed by ‘higher dimensional’ beings?
If that is the case, could we conceivably ‘hack’ the universal code and unlock cheat mode?
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
And an infinitely dense point in spacetime doesn’t necessarily exist: it’s just what general relativity predicts is at the center of a black hole.
If the singularity at the center of a black hole didn’t exist, and was just extremely dense instead, would all of the other properties that we know is true about black holes be able to exist? For example we know that Sag A* and that one other black hole we ‘imaged’ give off no light, would that still be possible without a singularity?
- Comment on Black Holes 2 months ago:
userface checks out
