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- Comment on Every toddler becomes a hackerman when they find a tablet 5 days ago:
Toddlers have object permanence. Object permanence develops at around 4-6 months old. Kids are still infants at that point. Toddlers are generally 1-3 years old.
- Comment on Every toddler becomes a hackerman when they find a tablet 5 days ago:
That’s a parenting red flag. That happens because the parents keep putting a phone in the kid’s hand and expect the phone to occupy all their time. Spend time reading and speaking to the kid in his mother tongue rather than giving them a phone and they’ll become proficient pretty quickly.
- Comment on Every toddler becomes a hackerman when they find a tablet 5 days ago:
This is a parenting issue, not a kid thing. It’s because parents put a tablet in their kid’s hands, teach the kid to use it, then expect the tablet to occupy all the kid’s time while they don’t engage with the kid.
I have a 5 yo and a 3 yo. We have a family iPad, but the kids barely know how to use it. They virtually never watch videos on it (only exception was the one time they’ve been on an airplane). My 5 yo is very artistically inclined, so we downloaded a sketchpad app she can draw with. She also builds legos, so we downloaded the lego app she can use for instructions. Those are the only apps she knows how to use, and she doesn’t even know how to navigate to find them. We have to open the app for her and get her setup before she can run with it. My 3 yo doesn’t even know how to do that much.
We mostly use the iPad to video chat family or play music, both of which are controlled by grown ups.
Yet my kids are extremely proficient at a lot of other stuff relative to kids their own age. The 5 yo can fully read and write and can do simple arithmetic. The 3 yo can read small words, can write all her letters, and can count at least to 100. They both do small chores around the house, both help cook (especially the 3 yo has gotten very good at slicing veggies).
Toddlers being hypercompetent with a tablet is 100% a parenting red flag. It shows the parents aren’t very engaged and just let the tablet do all the parenting for them.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
I would say ‘chauvinistic’ rather than racist.
The word “civilized” essentially just means “people who act in a way I deem morally good.” What ‘morally good’ means is 100% subjective to the individual saying it. Since personal morals are so heavily influenced by the culture and society one was raised in, the term ‘civilized’ is almost necessarily going to be used to justify why one’s own culture is necessarily better than another.
This isn’t necessarily racist, but since modern western society is so heavily based on white supremacy, it’s inherently going to be racist when used by someone supporting western society. But it can also be used in other contexts in a non-racist way. But it’s always going to be chauvinistic.
- Comment on Anon describes past 2 weeks ago:
Yes, it was easier for just anyone to buy a car. Now do the rest of the stuff in that post. None of it was accessible to someone who wasn’t a upper-middle class cishet white dude in the late 60s.
- Comment on Anon describes past 2 weeks ago:
I’m not saying it isn’t. I’m saying a lot of the things in the post were only accessible to people with privilege.
Being 20 in the US in 1969 and not getting drafted into Vietnam? Summer of 69 being more defined by Woodstock than the racial justice uprising that swept across black communities virtually every summer of the 60s (including 69)? Finding a woman who grew up in a super tiny town and her NOT being super racist against you? Getting a well-paying job with no qualifications? Not getting redlined out of being allowed to buy a decent house, let alone being allowed to buy 10 acres?
None of that was accessible to people of color, poor people, or women, let alone openly lgbtq people.
- Comment on Anon describes past 2 weeks ago:
This post describes and upper-middle class cishet white dude, and that’s it.
- Comment on Anon describes past 2 weeks ago:
If you were not upper-middle class (or higher) and white, these really weren’t realistic options to avoid the draft.
- Comment on What would I need to do to successfully paint with my own menstrual blood? 2 weeks ago:
I know someone who did this back in college, mostly as a prank. She found a product that was made specifically to collect menstrual blood. I’m not sure what it’s called, but she described it as some sort of cup. There really wasn’t much to it. She just collected it, then painted a simple picture, then gave it to a friend as a prank gift.
- Comment on Is "Not to mention" and "Not to leave out" the same thing? 2 weeks ago:
To me, “Not to mention” implies a bonus thing to consider that doesn’t need to be mentioned to form a complete thought; it’s just additional context.
I also feel like it not only adds, but enhances or expands the initial thought. EG, “I can’t go to the store with you because I have work. Not mention that you’re in a completely different city.”
The initial thought, “I can’t go to the store with you because I have work,” is a complete thought. But the addition of “you’re in a completely different city,” enhances it. Even if that initial thing wasn’t an issue (if I didn’t have work) the thought would still apply (I can’t go to the store) because of this even greater reason (you’re in a different city).
- Comment on Why do we tolerate it that Luigi Mangione is being held in prison. We know its absolutely the least safe place he can be? 3 weeks ago:
This isn’t really abnormal. He’s accused of murder, and a pretty high profile one at that. It’s not uncommon in the slightest for people accused of high profile crimes and people accused of murder to be held in custody pending trial.
- Comment on How Will We Know If The Trump Tariffs Were A Good Idea? 4 weeks ago:
Your degree of credulity should be criminal.
- Comment on Instead of Orange Man doing Tariffs would it not have been better for him to talk about shopping locally and so forth. And giving more tax breaks to companies that stay and sell in the US? 4 weeks ago:
You seem to be operating under the misplaced assumption that Trump’s goal with the tariffs was to actually bring manufacturing back to the US or improve the US economy in any way. It’s understandable if you haven’t paid very close attention to Trump over the past 9 years. But whenever thinking about him or his policies, you have to keep one thing top of mind: Trump is a habitual liar who only cares about his own personal wealth and power.
He’s not trying to bring manufacturing back to the US or improve the US economy. He’s doing market manipulation to increase his wealth and that of those who helped get him into power. He doesn’t give a shit about you or me or any of the rest of us. He couldn’t care less if the US crumbled into dust tomorrow, so long as he’s still on top.
- Comment on Why am I seeing political ads for Donald Trump in April of the year of his second inauguration? 4 weeks ago:
Trump has stated many times he’ll serve a third term. Told people they’d “never need to vote again.” He fully plans on being President untill he dies.
Hell, his official website is selling Trump 2028 merch.
- Comment on As a child of the 90s we grew up with PC Political Correctness. Is that WOKE but just in a different form? 4 weeks ago:
You’re right, but in the way Republicans/the right uses them, they are identical.
Every few years they change up the terminology. After PC it became SJW. Then it became CRT. Then woke. Now it’s transitioning to DEI. In a few years they’ll change to a new term.
But, to them it all means the same thing “anything supporting non-white people, lgbtq people, and/or women.”
- Comment on As a child of the 90s we grew up with PC Political Correctness. Is that WOKE but just in a different form? 4 weeks ago:
Yes, they’re the same thing.
As others have noted, the original definitions and origins were different. However, both terms came to be appropriated by right wing politics to mean (generously) “too liberal” or (more realistically) “associated with non-white people and/or women”.
- Comment on Why am I seeing political ads for Donald Trump in April of the year of his second inauguration? 4 weeks ago:
This has ALWAYS been a key feature of fascist regimes throughout history: operating as if you’re always running for election. Mussolini and Hitler both continued to hold big rallies even after they’d officially suspended voting. It’s a big part of how they keep their base engaged.
- Comment on Why is the NFL draft day so "special"? 4 weeks ago:
More like Prime Day or Black Friday.
While Valentine’s Day is heavily marketed and focused on consumer materialism now, it was actually celebrated as a religious holiday for well over a thousand years. It’s more an example of an existing celebration that got turned into something commercialized by capitalism.
Where as the NFL Draft, Prime Day, and Black Friday are “celebrations” wholly invented for the purpose of commercialized consumerism.
- Comment on Why is the NFL draft day so "special"? 4 weeks ago:
The NFL preseason to Super Bowl lasts about 6 months. That means they were going about 6 months after the Super Bowl with no significant events or anything else to draw revenue. So the people who run the NFL wanted to do something that could drive revenue during that half-year when they aren’t playing games.
So they marketed the hell out of the draft. They turned it into a big media event so they could sell sponsorships and put it on TV so they can sell ads.
It’s entirely a manufactured event to drive revenue.
- Comment on What's the next stop on the authoritarianism express? 4 weeks ago:
I think you have a much higher opinion of French political culture than is warranted.
- Comment on What's the point in getting married? 4 weeks ago:
I’m generally curious why people get married beyond the “because I love them” when it costs so much money.
Getting married doesn’t have to cost virtually anything. Really just the application fee to get a marriage license. The specific price will vary by state, and even by county (within the US, not sure how it works outside). Where I live, you can go to a courthouse and get married for $35.
If you plan to have kids, there are a lot of legal reasons why it’s just a lot simpler to have kids. The same applies without them, to a lesser degree, but with kids it’s just so much more of a hassle to not be married.
You’re right that you can achieve most (maybe even all?) legal benefits of marriage through trusts, wills, etc. But that’s a hell of a lot more work, and the lawyer fees, filing fees, and application fees are almost certainly going to cost you more than a cheap courthouse marriage. Not to mention the added work for yourself.
Beyond all that, though, the single biggest reason I wanted to get married and have a wedding with lots of friends and family was to stand up in front of everyone and profess my love for my (now) wife, let her do the same for me, then have big party with all our friends and family to celebrate it. There’s nothing wrong with spending money to throw a party for something you want to celebrate.
- Comment on Did the western world just suddenly go back to pretending wrestling is "real" for some reason? 4 weeks ago:
I mean, you see the same kind of thing with scripted television where there’s no kayfabe at all. We recently got the season finale of Daredevil Born Again, and there were all kinds of posts/comments/etc talking about how satisfying/bad ass it was to see Daredevil and Punisher beat down a bunch of cops. We all know it’s scripted fiction, but it’s still fun to watch.
- Comment on Why hasn't congress passed a law saying that you can only deport people *back to their own country*? 4 weeks ago:
Because both Houses of Congress are controlled by Republicans who are 100% in support of everything the regime is doing.
- Comment on 34% of the US population doesn't vote. Why do polticalitcians cling to the idea that these voters can't be reached? 4 weeks ago:
Why do polticalitcians cling to the idea that these voters can’t be reached?
They don’t. At least not the politicians who tend to do well. Reaching people who had never voted in any previous election was the central strategy to both Obama’s and Trump’s campaigns, and those were the two most successful electoral politicians in national American politics of the past 2 decades.
- Comment on Minecraft confuses me 5 weeks ago:
My kid fits in just fine. She has plenty of friends.
- Comment on Minecraft confuses me 5 weeks ago:
Right? And I’m over here failing as a parent by buying books and letting her play outside. /s
- Comment on Minecraft confuses me 5 weeks ago:
Is there really fault at play here? I mean, is playing Minecraft a life skill that’s vital for a 5 year old to learn?
- Comment on Minecraft confuses me 5 weeks ago:
Maybe I’m parenting wrong, but my 5 year old has no idea what Minecraft is, let alone knows how to play it. The only video games she’s ever played is some Super Mario Bros 3 on a vacation once. She doesn’t even know how to do anything on our iPad except use the sketchpad app for drawing.
- Comment on If spez manipulated reddit in the right way could he ignite a revolution? 5 weeks ago:
No
- Comment on I get that america is failing if it's duty to suppress the rise of fascist but did the rest of the world just put all its eggs in the america basket? 5 weeks ago:
Bretton Woods wasn’t about military protection. It was about stabilizing the global economy and monetary system. It absolutely gave the US a ton of economic influence, but it didn’t have anything to do with military protection. The Soviet Union even took part in the negotiations that turned into the Bretton Woods Agreement, although they chose not to sign the treaty.
The US’ military hegemony came out of NATO, the Cold War, and the Marshall Plan.